Catrina - posted on 05/19/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )
How do you kindly put it that the time you get with your SK is your time? That you do not have to (in any way) include them in the time they are with their Father.
Scenario: DH ex-sister-in-law moved to the same county as us. We had an issue during Spring Break because she wanted to see the kids, and we had just 10 days to see them. Mind you when DH had contacted her many years before she pretty much told him she was instructed NOT to speak to him or have any contact. Well BM gave her the cell ph and that's when the calls & Texts started. "I know the kids are intown and I wanted to see if I could come take them for a few hours" I usually don't see much of a problem with it, however this consideration does not even apply to DH or myself. We were in the kids home town for a wedding and reserved time with them, 2 days. Yet BM refused this 6 days before we were to be there (we gave the 30 day required notice, plus a few months) so instead of the 2 days we were forced to only 4 hours with them. It was that or not see them at all.
We asked BM to add a day or two extra onto the Summer Time. We had planned on having a party for my SD the weekend before they went home (her birthday is the 21st of july, and they are scheduled to go home on the 17th) We also figured that it'd allow time for her sister to spend with the kids. We even offered to provide her with a guest pass to go to the theme park near our house with the kids for the day.
Should we be considerate? There is no court order requiring that time, and if the time was made on BM's behalf - she'd still need DH's ok in order for the children to travel w/out a parent and out of their home county & State.