Ex's trying to rule the life they dont have anymore

Renee - posted on 05/12/2010

I know exactly how you feel. Basically, I just let my husband and his ex work out whatever issues that she has with their children, I don't butt in anymore. But I also made it clear to her that I'm not gonna have her coming into our marriage trying to tell us what we can and cannot do while the children are here with us.

Michele - posted on 05/11/2010

Completely relate! We too deal with these issues with biomom. She feels she has the right to control the on goings in our home but in the same breath will deny us any information about the girls while in her home. My husband is in the military so we currently live about 7 hours from his daughters. If it wasn't for his 10 year old we would not even know things such as doctors appointments or school grades. The 10 year old had her tonsils removed, we weren't even notified, my husband found out the day after talking to his daughter on the phone. Fast forward to summer and our time with the girls and if biomom doesn't get the things she wants we are in court fighting over whose right it is to make that parental decision. I too am a biomom and I learned years ago that it was easier for me and my son to just let go of the control and the drama and live my own life. You'd think others would learn the same! Good luck!!

Tesha - posted on 05/03/2010

I totally understand!! I deal with the same issue with the biomom in our situation. She thinks she should control our house, but can't even control her own! She has gotten better after my husband and I put our foot down with several issues.

As long as we are stepmom's, we are going to have to deal with the biological mothers....until the kids are grown and out on their own. Then we will have grandkids to fight over. :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/29/2010

I had a problem with my husband's ex back in 2007. She would call him all the time and keep him on the phone till 2 or 3 in the morning sometimes. I kept telling him that he didn't have to talk to her all the time just to see his girls, but he just kept on talking to her. I wouldn't have felt so bad, but they weren't even talking about the kids. She would bring up things from the past and ask him what he would do if they were still together. I felt like I was alone in the marriage and got bored with him on the phone all the time. In the end, I found someone for me to talk to and my husband got the hint that I was lonely. He didn't like me talking to another man, so now things are so much better. She didn't let him see the kids for a long time, but the judge had something to say about that!

Leeanne - posted on 04/28/2010

My husbands ex still thinks she should have the right to know what's going on in the Family( the family she didn't want to be a part of) She'll call my inlaws and tell them stuff and we hear about it. Then she get's pissed because they told us. And she makes any paperwork she gets read what she wants it to. When she's the one that went to court and changed it. If she doen't like what it says she says that no what it means. So fed up with her crap!!! She also don't let my parents have anything to do with my step daughter, which they've been in her life since she was 4 and she'll be 14 in June. So i understand how you all feel.

Sarah - posted on 04/27/2010

i know exactly how u feel i hear u all the way

Anna - posted on 04/26/2010

Grrrrrr......... it makes me soooo angry! mine was the same. we were asked to have SD (then 7yrs) while BM moved house. it was last minute and we didnt know for how long. during that period we were told what to do and what not to do (food we eat, bedtime, clothes she wore, etc) i got pissed off and no one would support me in what i was saying, considering i was the one staying home all day. in the end SD went back after 2 weeks because of an argument on my drive between BM and hubby, even then i got the blame from hubby and family.