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Had posted this in another group but I think here it will be understood.

Jennifer - posted on 01/20/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

Why are we, as people and parents so affraid to reverse our decisions. We make decisions based on the information we have and then the information changes or whatever so we are affraid to reverse our decisions.

I had been struggling with some major issues in my life. I finally talked to a very wise woman that told me that reversing your decisions can be a heathly and fullfilling as making new ones. I never looked at it as reversing I guess I saw it as failure.

I moved out of my ex's house we had a blended family and we had the county involved as well with my foster kids(3 all siblings). I have full custody of my 2 bios as well and he had 2 kids from a previous marriage part time. And I think what I learned most is that some parents don't think. This woman will never have a person in her kids's life with my ex that cares as much as I did about how she felt and the kids and yet she told the kids that I was 1. Sleeping with their father before they split-NOT TRUE! 2. A homewrecker because they had no issues before me HAHAHAHA! YA RIGHT! sorry frustrated 3. Named a dog after my son and then sent it to my home! try explaining that to a three yr old. 4) Was part of a plan to get my foster kids taken away from me 5) I paid for her son's sports and the expensive trip to get them back to her and right where the kids could read it called me the bitch!

We split this last summer and got back together shortly after and now she is pregnant again by him(possibly who knows small town 1000 stories) one time deal cause of course she was comforting him through a split that she had everything to do with so I guess when she ends up with a real winner for a step mom for her kids she'll look back and regret how awful she was to her own children!

Thanks for listening all Needed to vent

Update still not sure what to do . Anyone able to relate?

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Jill - posted on 01/21/2009

She has admitted no one would be as good to her children as I have but she hates me out of Jealousy none the less.

You are so right by this comment. It made me LOL. I hope that everything works out for you. Either way hopefully you get a bestfriend out of it from him. Good luck with the counseling and I hope it helps with the issues.

Jennifer - posted on 01/20/2009

Yes but we really don't think it's his and we are getting counseling to get through all of her crap to set a good example for the kids.

He did it one time and he thought we weren't ever getting back togther and told me right away. Still angry.... yep LOL But thats what the counseling is for :)

She is refusing a paternity test and just wants him to accept it as his even though the dues date would make her 11 months pregnant.

Basically it boils down to I have 4 boys 2 mine and 2 adopted and a girl that was basically part of the package till she turned 18 because no one else wanted her. So total of 4 now.

He has a boy 9 and a girl 11 that I absolutely adore and she has admitted no one would be as good to her children as I have but she hates me out of Jealousy none the less.

Make more sense? lol