Blessing - posted on 10/21/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )
I need advice, im horribly depressed and unhappy because of the situation with my daughter's SM. she broke up with BD because he believed she was cheating, anyway a month later i dated him, 2 months later i was pregnant ( all very unexpected as i was on birth control n he used it too), he then decided to cheat on me with the ex now sm pretty much immediately after i got pregnant 2 months on she was pregnant, when i was 4 months preg he decided he wants her baby and not ours so he began what i would call hell, he told me about her ( very painful) then began to do and say everything hurtful to me and about me in a plot to get me to have an abortion, knowing how much i loved him when all else failed he gave me n ultimatum him or the baby ( i was surprised he thought i would pick him after all he told me) needless to say i choose my little girl and the hell went on.
Fast forward my daughter is 3 months old his now fiancé had a miscarriage/ abortion im not sure, she says miscarriage he says abortion and i am to blame for it because i refused to kill my lil girl.
Now the soon to be SM accuses me of causing the so called baby mama drama. im literally dancing to her tune, im tip toeing around her feelings and her wants to avoid making the situation worse. im the reason she lost her baby, she hates me and not afraid to tell everyone except me that. she's all nice to me and asks me stuff abt the baby after i tell her she goes and tells evrey1 im bragging abt my child and intentionally hurting her knowing she lost hers. i cant evn put my daughters picture on facebook because both her n him give me grief about doing it to hurt her. when he comes to see her, sm says im doin things to try get him back, mind you i have no desire to date him again i have found meaning to the saying ' there's a fine line between love and hate'
on the other hand he's asking me to get back together because ' he loves me, made a mistake, realises there's no one he would rather have kids with than me, in the mean time he's staying with her too because she's still hurting and he will leave at the right time.' im not falling for that BS but he wont stop despite all my attempts to show him that i dont love him anymore.
What am i to do, i never had issues with my now ex's baby's BM. i was in that baby's life since birth and got along well with her mom. even though im not with dad anymore we all still get along and i get to see her every now and then, and this is all despite the fact that he cheated on me and got her preg, i was never bitter at her, why is SM so bitter with me, i did nothing wrong, her fiance hurt me soo bad i dont think i will ever forgive him but no one seems to see or care about my feelings. i wanna take my girl and run but i cnt do dat to her, beside all her dad has done he loves her to death and it shows when they are together.