Larissa - posted on 05/22/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
So we had my SDs this past weekend, and within 15 minutes of them being here, out of nowhere the oldest starts telling me about how BMs husband is still being mean to them. (BM kicked her husband out a few months ago because he was being so mean to the kids, then told the kids she was getting a divorce and restraining order from him. Kids felt happy and safe..... for about a week until she let him back in!!!) So I asked SD if she tells mommy abou tit and she says "yeah, mommy tries to talk to him about it, but he doesnt listen, and he's different to us when she's not there". SDs (6 and 7 years old) have told me before that he pushed one into the other, and has pushed them down, but this was before she kicked him out. They say now he just yells at them all the time and gives them "mean eyes". Now, as if that's not sad enough, they tell me that mommy had "Troy Troy" (BMs old boyfriend) over last week while BMs husband was at work. They are not allowed to tell him. They said they will be going fishing with mommy and troy troy soon and spending lot of time with him this summer. So she's cheating (which is what she does) and having her daughters keep her secrets! While sitting in church (6 year old goes to childrens church so she wasnt in there, but 7 year old was) our Pastor was talking about honesty with your spouse, and how you shouldn't put yourself in compromising situations, and shouldn't keep secrets from your spouse.... I was so happy that she was paying attention to this, and kept asking DH questions during church about it. So she knows it's wrong, but kills me that there's nothin we can do to take them out of this situation. What a great judge we had! Letting her keep custody and just saying she had to get a place of her own (lives with her ex step dad, who is trying to sell the house and move away, and she hasnt moved out yet). Now the kids have to go through all this crap!!! Anything anyone can think of that we can do?