Molly - posted on 04/20/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )
I am so frustrated! Last night, my DH and SS (15) got into an argument about use of the computer. SS became extremely angry with his dad and called BM to come and pick him up, which she did. Once he got to his mom's house, SS sent his dad a texted list of demands that he said we must follow or he will not return. These included changing dinner time till 7pm, allowing him to drive the old truck when he gets his license in 3 months, (not safe) changing the carpet in his room, taking away all his chores and lots of other things. DH called him back, and without discussing any of this with me, started negotiating. The more he placated, the more rude, demanding and disrespectful SS became. Suddenly it became MY fault that we had any rules! DH did not defend me or back me up. When he got off the phone, I approached him gently realizing that he was upset, but he became angry with me too. I have a daughter too, who is expected to follow the rules, and does so. SS allowed his dad to go and get him around midnight, but neither he nor DH has spoken to me since. DH and I discussed and set out the house rules together, these were based on common sense and not some arbitrary thing that I came up with. But when I tried to talk to DH about it, he just yelled at me that I was breaking up his family! ME? I wasn't even involved! Any suggestions???