How long did you wait to have another baby?

Jennifer - posted on 07/29/2009

It's really up to you when you have another one. I come from a very blended family and thanks to the way I was raised, I have several siblings(whole, step and half). I consider them all my brothers and sisters. My BM&BD have me and my brother, my BM & SD have 2 together, my SD has 3 from his ex, my BD & ex-SM have 4, and my new SM has at least one( i'm not too sure as i haven't met her yet) i was raised with my brother and my SD's kids and the 2 my BM & SD have. I consider all of them my siblings and I was raised knowing that they are all my siblings. It just has to do with how you raise your SD when she's with u...just include her and let her help pick out baby stuff.....But it comes down to while u love ur SD, u and ur hubby decide when u two have kids together.

Betty - posted on 07/25/2009

Hey thanks guys! Right now I'm trying to get in really good shape because I believe healthy moms grow healthy babies. So far I've been right on track and in a few months I'll be in my prime. My husband kinda wants me to hold off for an extra year but I just laugh in his face when he tells me that. But who knows... I'm a big chicken so he might just get his way.

Holly - posted on 07/25/2009

we were actually 2.5 months pregnant when we got married (the wedding was bumped up 7 months because of that...) and the baby was born a month after my SD turned 5. then, we had another one 16 months later (we wanted them close together). so now we have 3 beautiful little girls! my SD loves her sisters so much and is old enough to help me with them a lot (she really likes when i set her on the couch so she can feed the baby!). i am a litte worried for when they get older since my older sister (biological) and i were 4 years apart. we did not get along from the time she hit puberty until she moved out of the house for college. i was just the annoying little sister who wanted to tag along all the time. :)



i think it did help that we involved my SD as much as possible. we took her to doctor's appointments and we went online every week and i showed her the progression of the baby.



good luck in whatever you decide! :)

Jessica - posted on 07/24/2009

We had gotten pregnant for our son the same year we married. Our daughter's where 5 and we just involved them as much as possible. They went to US appointments went with us to hear the heart beat for the first time. Helped pick out his name and they wanted to be there for the birth. One daughter is my BIO daughter and one is my SD they are 5 months apart. It think as long as you include them things should be good. So do it when you are ready and just included her with it all.

Di - posted on 06/18/2009

Hi Betty, deciding to have a baby is something that you should be doing because its the right time in your relationship. Yes it does affect sd in lots of ways. But if its done in a positive way with her, she will get much more out of it then you realise. It really does depend on you firstly, as it affects you the most, followed by hubby. If you feel you are ready to move into a new direction then go for it. If you want to wait, then go for that. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.

Leaha - posted on 06/18/2009

I was also a product of a blended family. My parent's seemed to wait a little bit though. When my mom and dad got married, my mom had my sister who was 10 and my dad had my brother who was 5. Shortly after they got married, they had me. So there is almost exactly 5 years between the three of us. My brother doesn't have any other siblings from his BM, but my sister has a couple from her BD&SM, she rarely hears from them(her dad just pretty much walked out on her and my mom) so I'm not even sure how old they are...

Betty - posted on 06/18/2009

Thanks Leaha. My husband will be ready for a baby when I am ready to have one. I mostly want to wait till my sd is able to see how great it is to have a younger sibling and so far I don't think she is enjoying the one she's got(maybe she never will though). She knows that her new sister makes her mom happy and told me to get a baby in my tummy so I can be happy like her mom. She is so sweet to think about my feelings like that. I kind of want to have a baby before Obama distroys the heath care system so it can be a more positive experiance the first time around. Just curious on how long most blended families choose to wait.

Leaha - posted on 06/18/2009

It's entirely up to you when you want to have a child. Exspecially if you don't have any of your own. Why wait just because your SD has other siblings? My husband and I got married a little over 6m's ago, and we've been trying for one of our own for a couple months now. I have and 8 1/2yo daughter, and he brought to the marriage an 11yo girl, a 8yo girl and a 2 1/2yo boy. So yes technically we have 4 children, but only one of them is mine. I've been ready to have another baby since my daughter was a year old, but it never worked out. Now we're trying to have OUR first together. So it's totally up to you and your hubby. Is he ready? Or is it just the fact that his ex moved on and had another? I know I would probably be hurt if my ex and his new hoochy had a baby before me(considering they aren't even married and she keeps moving out and back in, yea, like that's good for my daughter, lol) and I'm sure it would make me want to have one even more. But you do what's best for you, and what you think. No one can tell you whether you can or can't, it's all up to you and God...



Leaha


Oh, I forgot to add that my 11yo SD has 4 other siblings from her BM&SD, besides the 2 from her dad and his ex. So I don't think your SD would mind having another sibling! =)