How old were you when you became a step parent

Beck - posted on 04/06/2010 ( 41 moms have responded )

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I was 20 when i became a step mum to a then 7 year old... There is less years between my step son and i than between his dad and I.

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Debbie - posted on 04/26/2010

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I was 16 when I got with hubby, The kids were 2 1/2, 5, 11, 12 to two different mums, oh the stuff I have been through good and bad. I now have 6 grandkids to add to the family plus 4 of our own. Like you Fiona, I have earnt every grey hair in my head, the kids laugh at me and joke how they gave me the greys. It's been an interesting road that we have travelled, dont know if I would travel it again. I would probably take a different route.

Fiona - posted on 04/23/2010

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I was 25 when i met my step children, 26 when i became their step mum, they were SD 4yrs, SS 5yrs old when i met them and have enjoyed every minute of it , I had my eldest 2 who were 6 and 3 at the time they are all 16, 15, 14, 13, yrs old and we also have 3 little ones 8, 7, 4, yrs old , they are worth every grey hair i dye .....lol

Angela - posted on 04/22/2010

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I was 23 when I started dating a friend of two years who had a 3 y/o boy. I fell in love with his son and dove right in. I helped them out when they're current babysitter decided she couldn't take him anymore. I went down to part time while he was in preshcool and took a leave of absense during the summer to watch him while they worked. We got married in 2008 and I "officially" became a SM. But I was considered one by all sides of the huge family he has when I moved in with my now husband. He's 9 y/o now and he's still soo much fun. Especially with his baby sister who just turned 1. I don't think two kids could love eachother more.

Amanda - posted on 04/20/2010

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I don't really think of myself as a step mom because their bm is no where to be found but I have raised them as my own children since 19, they were 3 and 1. I have been married to their father since 20. Now my bonus son is almost 6 and my bonus daughter is 4. We also have given them a brother who is almost 2 and a sister who is 7 months.

Candyce - posted on 04/20/2010

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I was 20 when I became a stepmom. Only two of five are younger than I, lol. At the time, my skids were (in order): 26 (f), 23 (f), 21 (m), 19 (m), and 8 (f). My own son was not yet a year and a half at the time. It's not been too difficult with the youngest, especially as we've gotten to know each other. Now we're pretty decent friends. The others loathe me to a point, except maybe the oldest son (now that he's a stepdad) and maybe the oldest daughter (too much respect for her dad, plus it's not her business, lol).

Blessed Be

Becki - posted on 04/20/2010

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I moved in with my now husband when my SD was 3 and just got married last year right before she turned 5. The only problems we've had all seem to stem from her mom.

Taryn - posted on 04/19/2010

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25. my sd was 18 months. but we got married when i was 28. Im 30 now and she is 6 1/2. I have a 8 month old daughter now as well. She is the greatest, calls me mom and I adore her. Unfortunately her BM is a big problem but we have resolved some issues and now have JC and equal time. Fingers crossed that things get better. Hope for the best prepare for the worst.

Sharon - posted on 04/19/2010

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I was 22 when I became a stepmom the first time. His kids were 1, 4 & 6... mine were 1, 2, & 4. Looking back, not sure how I dealt with 6 from 22-29.

I became a stepmom again to my SD11 when she was 7. I was 35.

Liz - posted on 04/19/2010

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I was 35 when I became stepmom to my husbands 3 children, then aged 20,16 and 12. We also have a daughter together aged 19 now. It has been a strange and wonder filled 20 years. We also have 12 grand children and a great grand child on the way!

Bronnie - posted on 04/19/2010

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I was 28 when I became stepmum to a then 13 and 8 year old. 7 years has healed a few issues the girls have but the eldest still doesn't really talk to me.

Sarah - posted on 04/18/2010

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I was 25 and my step-daughter was 11. It was a rough start, starting out because she wanted me out of the picture to get her mom and dad back together. Now my husband has full custoday of her, and we have almost the mother/daughter relationship a biological parent could have with their own kids.

Charmisa - posted on 04/16/2010

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I was 32. The boys are wonderful! it's the girls that I had problems with. As a result I'm working on the divorce papers.. My advice is to really think and come to an understanding about marriage and children before taking that step.

Rachael - posted on 04/15/2010

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I was 24 when I became a custodial step mom to a then 5 year old. She's now 7, almost 8 and I am 27. It hasn't been too rough other than issues with BM.

Vicki - posted on 04/15/2010

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I was 25 almost 26 when I became a sm to 4 kids aged 9 11 16 and 18 and had my own 2 that were 3 and 6...the sk are now fixing to be 20 22 27 and 29 and mine are fixing to be 14 and 17.and I am a sgm to a 5 yr old and 19 mth old...you can imagine the looks I get when I have all 6 kids and the 2 grandbabies with me or one of the sk introduce me as their "mom" or the little ones call me grandma or nana!!!!!!

Cat - posted on 04/14/2010

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I was 18 when i met my boyfriend his daughter was 6 I am 28 going on 29 and she will be 17 in july she is a wonderful child i have been so happy to be a mother figure to her I am surprised how well we get a long me and her dad have 4 children together ages 8, 6, 4 ,and 2 and she loves them all despite her mother.

Nicole - posted on 04/12/2010

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I was 21 when I officially became a stepmom, but have been considered a stepmom by most (meaning myself, husband and all three kids) since I was 19. The youngest was 2, the middle child was 4 and the oldest was 5. They are now 5, almost 7 and 8. Great post.

Jessica - posted on 04/12/2010

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I was 20, and my SD was 4.... She just celebrated her 9th birthday last week :)

Miranda - posted on 04/11/2010

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I was 18, with a 6 year old step daughter who I love very much! I now have a 10 month old son & she's a great big sister to him. My step daughter is almost 9 now.

Sherry - posted on 04/11/2010

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i became a step parent in 2007 so i was 34. Since that time my step children have been taken from me due to a horrible ordeal.

Stacy - posted on 04/10/2010

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I was 18 when I met my husband, he had a 2yr old and I had a 1yr old. We got married when they were 5 and 6. Right before we got married they came running in the living room and told us that when we got married they wouldnt be step brother and sister anymore, that they would be real brother and sister, made me so happy. I also have never referred to my son as my step son. I love him just as much as my daughter. Our kids are now 11 and 12 and they get along GREAT. His mom is amazing also and has always let me be involved in his life. We have a great relationship and are good friends. If she wasnt so amazing it would of probably been alot harder being a stepmom.

Deborah - posted on 04/10/2010

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I was 19 when my hubby and i got together but I wasnt offically their step mom until i was 21. they are 7, 6, and 4. I don't call then my step kids(I feel is demeaning to my kids and I dont want to make them feel singled out) so you can imagine the looks I get from people when i tell them my oldest daughter is 7 and im only 22.

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I was 34 when I officially became a step-mom. Had 2 kids of my own (15 & 16 years old at the time) and "inherited" 2 "new" kids (2 & 8 years old). Now we have an expanded family - my then 16 year old son has 3 kids & 2 (+ one on the way) grandkids, my then 15 year old daughter is mother to 2 kids, my then 2 year old son is step-dad to one and has one one the way, my then 8 year old is single and loves being an auntie. Our family is very happily growing.

Nickie - posted on 04/09/2010

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By marriage I was 20, but I was actually his step-mom from 17 years old. He had just turned 1.

Melanie - posted on 04/09/2010

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i was 25 and unofficially a step mom ( a awkward place to be when explaining your role to schools etc)when my boys were 2-3 and married at 33...we made sure we were in it for the long hall before officially marrying since their BM seems to be in a cycle of moving boyfriends in and out...not to mention she burned my hubby so bad he was in no hurry to marry again!

Elizabeth - posted on 04/09/2010

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I was 21, my step son was 6, my step daughter was 1 and their father was 29.
I'm now 23 and we have a 5 month old son and planning baby #4 (or #2 depending on how you're counting it)

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I was 29 but it was still a shock I can assure you. I dont think being a bit older makes it less scary.

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i was 16! the ex's pregnancy was kept quiet! the daddy and i now have a 10 month old daughter together and my step-son is now 4 :) goes to show u can work through tough times as nobody thought we couold do it :)

Christie - posted on 04/08/2010

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I was 20 years old and my stepdaughter wasn't quite 6 months old. She doesn't know her parents to be together and only knows her father to be with me. I love her to pieces but it has definitely been a difficult road at times. I'm now 25 and she just turned 5 a month ago.

BM and I were, at one point in our lives, friends in high school. She spent the first 2 years I was with my husband trying to split us up. She's jealous of the fact that I have him and she doesn't, but she's the one that left him.

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I was 19 when I became a stepmom... My fiancee and I got together when BM was only a couple months pregnant (lot of cheating going on and wasn't sure of paternity) and didn't meet our daughter until she was 5 months old, when paternity was established... BM lost custody when she was 6 months old and basically disappeared from her life when SD was 8 months old and moved to Arizona... she's 22 months old now. we're working on getting full custody within the next couple months as we're getting our own place... my fiancee has joint custody with BM's mom and I am very grateful to BM's mom and stepdad for helping out and being so great to us and taking care of our little girl... it's a hard thing and very frustrating being without her...because of circumstances I am also grateful for (BM not being around, not paying child support, threatening me, etc) I will most likely be able to adopt her within the next year :) I love my little girl and I can't wait to have her every minute of every day

CJ - posted on 04/07/2010

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It is really difficult to answer this question. When my friend from school broke up with her boyfriend, I sort of got custody of their daughter. As a mom this former friend was quite lost, especially as Amber is learning disabled. I spent 20 years trying to avoid her father, (with whom I was still madly in love), but would see him occasionally after he took custody of Amz from her birth mom. I officially became her step-mom a little over three years ago when I married her father (at 42), but sometimes I think I am the only mother figure she has ever had.

Ashley - posted on 04/07/2010

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my now husband and i met when i was 19. we started dating when i was 20 and his daughter then was 11 months old. she is now 5 and we have a 6 month baby boy together. we are doing great except for having to deal with the bm of our oldest!

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I was 20 and my "bonus" daughter was 3 1/2 (she turned 4 later that year, we met between my birthday and her birthday). She is now 7 1/2 and I am about to turn 24. My hubby and I also have two more daughters together, ages 2 1/2 and 13 months.

Lynda - posted on 04/07/2010

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I was 24--the kids were 6,12,and 16. Now they are 16, 22, and 26. =) In addition I have a 13 year old daughter (she was 3 when my hubby and I got together) and my hubby and I are proud parents to our beautiful 2-year-old. I LOVE all 5 of my kids!

Jessica - posted on 04/07/2010

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I was 17 when my husband and I got together we got married when I was 18. my sd is now 3 1/2 yrs old.

Amber-lee - posted on 04/07/2010

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i was 16 and my S/daughter was then 2 1/2 we just celebrated her 4th birthday

Brittany - posted on 04/07/2010

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i was 19 when i became a step mom to my beautiful baby boy. he was only 2 weeks old at the time...and we just celebrated his 2nd birthday a few weeks ago!!!

Leisa - posted on 04/07/2010

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I was 22 when I became a step mum to a then 4 year old. I now have an 8th old and my step daughter is 7 now. Its been hard

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