Diane - posted on 11/14/2008 ( 5 moms have responded )
My DH has a daughter from a (I'm ashamed to say) one night stand with a woman that already had 3 kids from 2 different men. He found out she was pregnant after we had already began dating. I encouraged him to do everything "right" from the start...meaning put his name on the birth certificate, establish visitation and so forth. Well, nothing (other than his name on the BC) has ever been done. We have never had any trouble seeing her until recently. She will be 3 in Dec.
From the get-go we had to ask HIS PARENTS when we could see her. The child's mom never cared but we did confirm all plans with her. We would get her every other holiday and for about 2 weeks total out of every month up until we moved farther away and had a baby. The last time we had her his parents came to pick her up a week earlier than we had planned with her mom. But she wasn't in the position to take our side and let the child stay with us b/c they are her babysitter while she works. They are manipulators and would more than likely say "We won't keep her for you unless you do as we say".
That was 4 months ago on the 17 of this month. We are not speaking to DH's parents and her mother won't answer our calls. We have consulted a lawyer and are trying to save money to go to court. Ultimately we would love full custody but we just want to see her so any amount of visitation would be better than what we have now. The situation she is in is not good for her.
I was just wondering if anyone had ever dealt with anything like this or if there were any suggestions. We live in KY and I know each state is different so...