Sonya - posted on 05/23/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )
Bio-Mom is back in kiddos lives but don't get me wrong guys I love the fact that both my 9 year old SD and my 8 year old SS has thier mom back in the picture, she's been in and out of thier lives for man I lost count but a LOOOONG time they never know when they are going to see her again she kinda pops in and out at thier grandmas house sometimes to sleep sometimes to eat but they never know when or how long she is gong to stay there.So I guess now she is staying there for a while Im not sure, but the main thing is that they are happier and they know she is safewhich is great news to me because they have been stressed out and have cried sooo many tears. Now heres where it gets sour, my SD I see is wearing all of her moms stuff from shoes to belts to shirts to shorts which we don't mind unless it has something offensive on it like its to grown-up or goth or whatever, any-whoo it's been like 2 1/2 weeks since she's been staying at thier grandmas house, yet now my SD is acting really defensive toward me with any little thing and she talks to me in sharp tones and gets all dramtic if I tell her anything about how she is acting. My SS is still the same with me very lovable and caring and and even he notices her change in behavior towards me. Just today she told me in a rude manner and very loud tone, "I don't want everyine knowing my business" and storms out of my car and runs inside because of what my niece asked her which was "what was the name of the boy she had a crush on again? (like my SD told her before already in the car ride.) I was about to tell her and my SD flipped she then picked a flower from my in-laws garden and was about ot give it to me and then she threw it on the floor and walked away ?? What is going on here ? Is she just acting pre-teenish " or maybe I have just seen the tip of the iceberg and there is still more to come but what's going on ??? I am so confused ?? I felt for a moment that just because mom is back now I am getting pushed on the back burner ?? I dont know I don't really think about our arguments I just let them go but I am just trying to figure out why she is acting this we have been a family for 5 years now and everything has been great but now heres a little bump in the road how can I get over this one??