Sherri - posted on 05/27/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )
Sitting on my couch in the dark with my laptop, listening to the thunder and wondering why the weather is so closely resembling my mood.
A little backround:
I've been with my husband for 5 years, married for almost 2 years. My SS is 13 and lives with us full time. since I met my husband, this kid has been a problem child. He is a compulive liar, he steals, he's in danger of failing the school year and he's so disrespectful it would make you sick to see and hear. Very little is expected of him, but he whines about how hard he has it. He takes NO responsibility for anything. As an example, he freaked yesterday about how we "locked him out of the house ALL afternoon. What would one expect when they forget their house key??????
We've tried everything we know how to do. We've grounded him, we've tried rewarding the good behaviour. We've taken everything out of his room when he stole $45.00 from my husband and forged a cheque at the age of 10. He's in counselling, just finishing temper taming and I bent over backwards to make sure that he had as much visitation with his mother as possible and go above and beyond on a regular basis.... his deadbeat mother doesn't even attend temper taming or cadets or ANYTHING for that matter.
For my SS's birthday, my husband and I got tickets for a baseball game... even got an extra one so that he could bring a friend. Last week, he was busted for stealing AGAIN. We told him that if he stole from us again, he was going to loose the tickets. The worst part is that it's not like we're pushovers.... we always stick to our guns. I don't know why he was so shocked and shaken last night when we kept good to our word and why were shared the privilege of the attitude and disrespect because he stole money straight out of our room.
I don't understand why he's acting like this... he has a paper route, so he's not hard up for cash. We don't allow him to sucker us into his drama, temper tantrus or excuses. He gets lunch snacks and treats, he just simply has to ask for them. Instead of asking for it, he just takes what he wants and I fear that one day it will get much worse.
To top it all off, I've been dealing with my own stuff lately. I have a deadbeat parent myself that I cut ties with years ago and he's managed to with one nasty email, bring back off of these supressed emotions that I'm just starting to process.