Chelsea - posted on 11/17/2009 ( 52 moms have responded )
My husband and I just had a weekend visit with his daughter/ my step daughter. Everything was going fine until his ex wife came to pick up my step daughter...First off she came early and was pounding on the door and when my husband answered it she started yelling and demanding. So he just simply shut the door. She then pounded on the door several times and when we both opened it the last time she balled up her fist and about hit me...my husband pulled me away just in time! A few minutes later the cops show up and she was saying that we were not letting her have her daughter and that she had called us and told us she was coming early. The cop found out that she had NOT called and confronted her about it and she then said that she did not have our phone number!! So we gave it to the cop to give it to her knowing she has had it for over a year now. By that time it was time for her to pick up my step daughter so we said our good byes and gave kisses and hugs. We had thought that everything was said and done....WRONG!!! The next day the cops show up again wanting to talk to my husband....he was at work and asked me to tell him to call when he got home. Well they ended up going up to his work....The ex wife turned my husband in for abuse!!!!! While my step daughter was here she had fell down and got a small scratch on her cheek...we were going to tell the ex wife about the fall, but could not because of what I said earlier. So now my husband has to take a lie detector test and the SRS will be coming and inspecting the house and how we raise our kids (I have a son from prior relationship and another boy with my husband). The thing is when we go and pick up my step daughter she ALWAYS has a new scratch or bump or marking on her. Then the FIRST time she goes home with a scratch my husband is turned in for abuse. I am beside myself! My husband and I love our kids very much and would NEVER hurt them. I know I need to stay out of this, because its between my husband and his ex wife, but its so hard not to want to help. This is not the first time that she has tried to pull something. She has never taken it this far though. The other times have been coming up with excuses as to why we cant have my step daughter for the weekend or holidays. My step daughter comes up to me all the time and tells me how her mommy hurts her and how she is mean all the time. I could go on and on and on about all the problems we have with my husbands ex and what my step daughter says happens while she is with her mother, but that would take too long.I know she is doing all this just to get back at my husband or to just piss him off, but what she is doing is hurting the kids.... Does any one have and advice as what to do or not to do? A "Just hang in there!" or an "It will be ok!" would even help... Just in case some of you mommy's don't have time to read all the posts that are on here.....we went and seen the lawyer today! Found out that she did not sign the papers!! The PFA maybe thrown out! And the lawyer said we have this in the bag!...we have enough evidence to show my husband DID NOT do any of this she is claiming he did. He also said that she is very vindictive! LOL! Thank you for all your help and prayers! My family will pray for all of you and your family's! I don't know how to thank you all enough for the prayers! I will keep you posted.....Thank you again!