insurance question

Penny - posted on 09/20/2011

That's what hubby said!

Staci - posted on 09/20/2011

That's a good idea. If she won't tell you, then she must not need it that bad!

Penny - posted on 09/20/2011

Well everyone I talked to regarding insurance has told me NOT to give her his social. They have said have her give us the name and place she's taking SD and call and give his social myself. Of course we've asked her to let us know who is asking for this and she's refusing to give it to us. She's quite the character...

Staci - posted on 09/20/2011

I know my husband's ex has asked for it before to take my stepson to the dentist. We have a good relationship with her though, so it wasn't a big deal to give it to her.

Amy - posted on 09/20/2011

but even then if I'm not mistaken the infomation has to be taken from the person or their legal spouse not their Ex. However, I know different dr. offices have different policies. but it almost sounds illegal for an ex to be giving out any type of information especially ss # or to say they are responsible for all cost unless its court ordered then theres the issue of taking the papers into the dr. office with all that information on them....

Staci - posted on 09/20/2011

Right...just once

Amy - posted on 09/20/2011

Wow...after we give our doctors the insurance card they do not ask us for ss # however if you are the party listed as responsible for medical bills not covered by the insurance(s) then they ask for you ss# but that is left on file from what Ive been told. Ive only had to give my Husband's ss# once at the doctors office and that was the very first visit.

Staci - posted on 09/20/2011

My SS has a form of Medicaid. He has the kind that you're not supposed to have if you can have ANY form of other insurance. My husband is required to cover him as well, and he has insurance through him. We've explained to his mom that we can all get in trouble if he has this Medicaid and she's lying to them. She claims they know about his other coverage and just has reduced benefits I guess. She does have to have my husband's SSN if she takes him to the dr and uses husband's insurance. The drs office asks for it, so they can file claims with the insurance company.

Amy - posted on 09/14/2011

I hope so too Penny at least you did what you said you were going to do chances are since she filed the papers out and not you or your hubby for Assistance it will all be on her.

Penny - posted on 09/14/2011

We always suspected BM had SD on Medicaid but couldn't prove it. She told us she would provide SD with insurance so we let her (while covering our butts and still providing it for her). I know she was getting all kinds of assistance from the state but I believe the state has 'found' her out. I just hope she's the one to get in trouble, not us.

Amy - posted on 09/14/2011

wow that didn't happen for us before we got custody of DSD we had to pay childsupport to bm while she collected Medicaid, Foodstamps and Wic

Amanda - posted on 09/14/2011

More than likely she wants his social because she's applying for Medicaid which requires the father's social, birthday, etc. And if she is able to get the medicaid, then they'll garnish his paycheck or y'all's joint tax return to pay the state back for it. If she's even applying for insurance. It might be so she can apply for state benefits (foodstamps/TANF/etc). Either way, they'll make him reimburse the state for it all in the form of child support. So instead of the child support coming to her, it'll go to the state.

Amy - posted on 09/13/2011

I kinda figured they would be on some sort of Court papers that had to do with his child :) As far as telling her where to find it I wouldn't I would just flat out tell her NO :)

Penny - posted on 09/13/2011

She is in control and everything just has to go her way or noway at all. They were never married so they don't have divorce papers but I looked through hubby's court order of child support and insurance and lo and behold.. there is his social.. As well as the paternity paper they both signed showing both of their socials. Lazy.. I whole-heartedly agree!!

Amy - posted on 09/13/2011

For us we have custody of DSD and we have to provide insurance for her but that was due to when BM had custody and the papers said she was to supply it she never did... BM does not pay any medical or even child support. However, I will say this she had no need for you husbands social if she really needed it and used her head she could look at the divorce papers (its sometimes on there or even tax papers from when the filed taxes together ) I know for a fact the social is on there :) Honestly sometimes I think the other parent is just flat out LAZY!

Penny - posted on 09/10/2011

So I probably sound really stupid.. but is it usually the noncustodial parent that pays the insurance the custodial parent pays the copays?

Amanda - posted on 09/10/2011

That doesn't sound quite right.... I'm not sure though. I would say the best option at this point would be for your husband to get the child's insurance card himself and just provide it to bm. I know I would NOT feel comfortable giving bm in my life my husband's social.... That's scary.