Tootie - posted on 05/01/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )
Let me start by saying, I believe we have rights i believe we are the best women for the job and i do believe that it's not all bad and I KNOW that it Gets BETTER.
I've had total custody of my SD for 5yrs legally now. I've been in her life since she was 1 and now she is going on 13. She's my Heart. We have the normal, preteen, family issues that any home has with children but other than that, life is good. It was a LONG Journey but we NEVER GAVE UP. Years of fighting, crying and eventualy happieness. We've paid childsupport while SD was living with us, had the police called with the lie that we kidnaped her (SD), The police tried to kick my door in with the lie that we sold drugs, I even was told i couldn't answer my own house phone (i pay the phone bill) when she called because she said i was always starting with her and thats why we didn't get along. You name it WE (I) Went threw it. And in the end, all the Praying and crying and nights trying to figure out if this was what i truley wanted all paid off. The judge saw that WE were the better roll models for her. She went from a 1.0 to a 2.7 the first yr and was holding steady now as of the last school yr and this yr so far she has a 3.4. She's great. BM doesn't provide but she sees her,WE made the decision to let her see BM everyother weekend and if needed,we snatch it untill she acts right.
I'm just saying,things aren't always bad,eventualy in the end if you HAVE and KEEP the Faith,the Lord knows who is Pure at Heart and who has good intintions. I Hope You ladies hear what I'm saying and those of you just getting in that relationship and going threw Drama RIGHT NOW It gets better,Not over night but it DOES get Better.