Kisha - posted on 05/26/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
My Step son's BM was killed in a car accident in Feb and he moved in with us. He has two sisters but they all had different fathers so they are all split up now. My step son has always been hard to deal with because he has such a nasty attitude. But now sometimes I just want to break down, because I understand he is hurting, but I don't feel that we should have to just let him get away with things because of the tragic accident.
He talks back, lies and is so dissrespectful that sometimes it makes me want to just loose it. He says things like we love our twins more then him, which is not true, but they just turned two in Feb so they require more attention then he does.
Before his mother passed he talked so nasty to her and about her. Now in his mind he has made his self believe she was a saint. I think he need some counseling but he dont want to go.
My hubby is hard on him because of his attitude, but I find myself stepping in the middle of it, because I dont want to make him feel he is not special and loved because he is. Our method of parenting is hands on when his mothers was totally different. I know it is an adjustment for him. But, how long should it take for the transition to be complete.