Beck - posted on 02/25/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )
I'm not sure if I have brought this question up before but do you get used to the fact your husband had a family before you with a wife and kids etc? I know when i got into the relationship he was previously married and all that and had a child with her but I seem to now be having a few issues with it. It doesn't help that my step son and my bio daughter currently share a room and he has a picture of him and his mum and dad up in the room with my husbands arm around his ex wives waist. I mean is there a point to that picture they broke up and divorced long before he could ever remember. To make me feel worse the wedding photos are still on the bookshelf with our family photos. Should I be understanding in the fact this was a part of his life before me and obviously significant but I will always feel she still has a place in this house for as long as they are there.
Should I insist on getting them put away into a box and out in the shed where my stepson can have the choice to keep them one day? Is it fair to bring this back on him when he is older that his mum and dad were happily married and obviously something went wrong and now their lives are very different and will never be together. Is that opening things to be troubled for him later on or am i just being paranoid? I keep fearing he is gong to one day think that he should have his own mum and dad together and he will resent me for it. I think there I am being paranoid but I can't help it.
In short how much do you hide away and how do you deal with what's there? I really don't know if I can live in this house with all this stuff around to remind me of what used to be here. I don't know what's worse... living in a house feeling like there will always be anther womans mark or not having my husband around.