Laura - posted on 08/26/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
I don't know what to do, so I thought I'd turn to everyone on COM's!!! My stepdaughter (she's 7) cries every single night when she goes to bed, and it's not only when she's overtired either. Does anyone else's stepchildren do that? She usually cries for her mother (BM), but the thing is that she roughly averages seeing her mother once a week, if not less. The BM has been a little better seeing my SD (averaging 5-6 times a month, when at her worst was about 3 times a month). I've been a part of my SD's life for 3 years, and she has cried herself to sleep every night, crying for her mom usually. But, I don't know if she says that because it's a valid feeling or if she's crying for attention? I don't know how to tell the difference, and when I ask her if there's something wrong or bothering her she won't come out and tell me, I have to guess. I go through recent events in my mind, and try and come up with a reasonable assumption of why she's upset. She just won't talk to me, and we do have a good relationship, (I think). when I ask her what's wrong she gets annoyed and says "I don't know", now I know that's not true. Those magic words of hers mean there's something bothering her, but I don't know how to get it out! Help please! Has anyone else had this problem? (either with your biokids or stepkids). I'm just so worried that if I pass it off as a phase, and it's a legit emotional issue, I'm so scared she'll turn to dangerous things as a teenager to ease this pain. I know that these years right now are the ones that you fix problems in, so kids grow to be happy teenagers/adults. I just don't know what to do!!!