my step daughter is 5 years old and we can not get her to stop wetting the bed any ideas?
Brenda - posted on 10/14/2009
Leave the situation alone. She will break herself when she is ready. Use protective things fior her bed and you can talk to your Doctor but I would not put her thru any test.
My son wet the bed until was 12 yrs old and it was because of a small bladder and a bad stepmother. I promise she will grow out of this phase.
This is from a 4x's mom and grandmother of 8. It's ok. Don't scolled her because that just makes things worst. Brenda
Kristy - posted on 10/14/2009
I forgot one thing. I have two friends who have children that bed-wet. Both friends have removed dairy products after 6pm from there diets and they say it makes a big difference. No milk, ice cream, cheese, yougur etc. You could try that as well.
Kristy - posted on 10/14/2009
Yeah, do some checking. See if some where she is being abused. Bed-wetting is one of two things. Physical - i.e. like bladder kidnet infection, or some other type of medical problem which can usually be treated with medicine. Or emotional. Abuse especially sexual is the most common cause of bed-wetting. But you do say she is your step-daughter. Maybe the divorce or tension between split parents or something to that affect is the problem as well. If you rule out medical and abuse, then you probably need to spend extra attention and time making her feel safe at night, comfortable and welcome and see if that helps.
Courtney - posted on 10/13/2009
think about the custody situation... I have a nine yr old stepdaughter and two of my own children. I never had issues with bedwetting or irregular urinating with my own but i did with my stepdaughter. We figured it to be a stress issue. She was going back and forth every two days from mom to dad. Mom got pregnant in that time with a new child from a new dad, and so did i. I think children can sense the stress around them and look at her situation and what may be causing some kind of stress. Once my stepdaughter had a court ordered agreement to week on week off access, her toileting became more regular. She has still had some accidents but always related to stress. The most recent was a week ago, she is nine, we attributed it to starting a new school. Good luck, and I hope everything works out
Stacy - posted on 10/13/2009
I agree I think by having her help out with changing the bed, maybe even doing the laundry, simply tell her to go get cleaned up and not saying anything to her about it may help out more. Completely ignoring it since she's doing it when shes awake. Kids hate to do chores, maybe thats all it'll take. Good luck! I know this is frustrating.
Tara - posted on 10/13/2009
Just talk it out. She might be doing it for attention. Although pediatricians have stated that children don't have full control of their bladder until they're about 6 yr or so. Just when she does it have her help you change her bed and clothes and not to create a big deal about it. Good luck
Dailey - posted on 10/13/2009
My understanding is this is more common in boys than girls but can still happen with girls. I agree with Audra in that you should get her checked out at her physician. One thing with my own son who had accidents until he was 9 is that stress only made it worse. I also found that when he starts to toss and turn and pout/cry in his sleep that most often if I get him up to go to the bathroom he stops.
Audra - posted on 10/12/2009
Hello I am a mother of five, his-hers-ours! Most of our children had no problems after they were potty trained, however, my middle child had problems wetting to bed until she was almost 7 and she is now 9 and once in a great while she still has accidents. My husband and I tried everything, nothing to drink an hour before bed, waking her up in the middle of the night to go, punishment, rewards, I mean everything. I finally consulted with our family doctor and found out is was a heriditary medical condition. That made so much since to me because I had a younger brother who had problems up untill he was 14. My advise take her to doctor and get her looked at, with the proper treatment and family support she will get better and you will feel better as well. Good Luck
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