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My stepson (7) lives with his mom where he watches rated R movies, sees people fighting and drinking all the time, hears bad commentary about us, and is allowed to do whatever he wants, including beat up on his little brothers. He has taught my son (4) to lie, be disrespectful to me, beat up on smaller kids, pee and poop wherever he wants, and many other things. I have finally had to decide to take my kids elsewhere when my stepson visits to minimize the damage. His mother won't let him live with us to see if it gets better or even accept that his behavior is a problem. In fact she encourages his crazy fits saying he just needs to express himself, and says he is horrid to me because I have not "earned" his respect. If he is not here full time in order to get some help and sanity, I don't want to be around this child at all or him bring all this nonsense into my kids lives every other weekend! Also, he doesn't WANT to be here, ever, no matter what fun stuff I try to do with him he just causes chaos and ruins it for everyone. What do I do? My marriage and my kids are not doing well with this!