Erin - posted on 01/06/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
To start off I hope everyone had a really nice christmas and wish you all the best in this new year.
I love being a step mom greatly because over the years I've gotten to watch the kids gorw in many ways, the only down side is still the birth mom/ ex-wife. My fiance has gone way more above and byond for this women yet she still craves for more and when she doesn't get her way she resorts to makeing threats and with holds the kids from us like their puppets. This christmas was a very tireing one I just don't enjoy it as much as I used to and I love christmas the best part was when I made things for people this year it was DVD slide shows, I recieved alot of positive feedback at my work and how professional it looked. I have even made one for the ex wife last year, this year her family requested some for themselves. I had no problems because I rather like her family and they've had no problem accepting me into their and the kids lives they have said I do a wonderful job with the kids and I too love them like they were my own. On christmas morning rob and I went to the ex-wifes to be there with the kids when they open their gifts it was kind of hard to watch laura(the ex wife) exchange gifts with her bf because rob was too nice enough to give her more money upon request after he had given her child support so she can get the kids some gifts. I myself had saved up for months getting rob and the kids their gifts and rob told me he felt bad for not getting me anything but I told him the only thing that matters is the kids it was fine. we haven't been able to exchange gifts for 3 years now because he helps out his ex wife more than he should even has paied off her bills which leaves us constantly short handed and all she does is show she's very two faced when she wants something she's sweet but when something doesn't go her way she pulls out the big guns which is threats and with holds the kids. Now she's demanding more for CP and assumes we have money to burn the last time I actually bought myself clothes was the same time I had my job before I had to quit which was also 3 years ago, my friend from high school gives me her old clothes and the money I do get for doing in home child care (cause I passed that course I may as well use it) I give the money to rob so we can pay the bills off. What she doesn't know is that half the money I make does go to her and I feel so used but I do whatever I can for the kids, gift cards I recieve for birthdays or christmas's I use on the kids. Now since she's demanding more money she's taking rob to social services on the 20th with the hopes that rob makes good on her demands. She has tried and pulled out many stops to get rid of me even called me one day and tried to exploite a hard trith that I already knew but chose to stick around because I love him and the kids too much. I'm just so lost and wondering how spiteful this one person is just to get her own way. I don't know what to do I've been so depressed and was on anti depressants but chose to get off them because it didn't do anything for me if theres any advice out there I'd greatly welcome it.