Erin - posted on 12/06/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )
I feel very bad for my husband. Every trip we go up to see his daughter is an emotional roller coaster. She is thrilled to see us, has a blast the first two days we are there, then on the last day that we are there she withdraws, acts distant and almost rude to her father. Shows no interest in doing anything with us just wants to go home to her mother. She won't hug him goodbye or show him any affection in front of her mother. Her mother openly disrespects him and 'hates' him in front of her. She has gotten more and more distant to him as time goes on, and he has been visiting her monthly for two years now. He has never abused her (or even given her a tap on the bottom in her life), yelled at her or made her feel bad when disciplining her so there isn't justification for the distant behavior, especially when it only comes when the mother is involved. We live seven hours away, and he only gets one weekend a month with her. He has put in for a visitation change for summers, part of the winter and half holidays and we are hoping that allows her and her father to develop a better relationship. The problem is, Bio mom stooped answering the phones for their weekly calls, she won't call him back when they are available and is basically preventing him and his daughter from having a healthy relationship. He is rally hurting right now becasue he went by himself this month, and after a great weekend, she blew him off all day today, insisted on going back to her mother and basically said bye and slammed the door in his face when he dropped her off. I don't know what to do anymore. PAS is so bad and ruins so many children relationships with the targeted parents. Im really hoping the mother stops this behavior, or the longer visits help.
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