Positive Thoughts and Prayers

Amanda - posted on 05/12/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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We all have times in our lives that are extra trying for us. Especially as stepmoms, we deal with situations that often led to us to feel alone, lost, and depressed. I want to begin this thread and leave it pinned to the top of our page for anyone who is experiencing a tough time or just needs a little encouragement. We should all feel free to post here and give our fellow members a chance to send us positive thoughts and prayers in our time of need.

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Ginamarion - posted on 03/06/2016

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Hey Becky,

I totally hear you (I'm new to the group and just going through the convos), I've been a SM for 2 years now, and I have 5 adult step kids. There is a 23 year age gap between my husband and I (yeah a lot - I know, and the step kids are just slightly younger that I).

I recently met the bio Mom at my step daughter's wedding a month ago and that was *HARD* and STRESSFUL to say the least.. It took me weeks to process it. Admittedly I looked amazing and poised! ;)

The bio Mom on our side has been super manipulative too, since even before the divorce, and my husband is just seeing the major affects it has on the kids and their relationship with him (and I)..it's pretty annoying to say the least and makes building a relationship with the step kids even harder. One thing I can say, and though it's only been 2 years, trust me with 5 adult step kids, its been a super steep learning curve, so one thing I can say is that Ex as we call her(bio mom) is angry, jealous and alone and can only really manipulate her kids now..so really it's sad. So really I try not too let her take up too much of my mental space, I mean I'm happily married and blessed. So I just bless her and know that with time, and the kids being adults and getting to know me more, will eventually see the good in their Dad and I. I'm hopeful! Plus my dear hubby though God bless him tries, only Daddy God knows the heartache and tears and hurt have regarding being a step Mom and having step kids and no biological kids. So I turn to him cuz there are some things I cannot do on my own.
Bless you Becky! Let me know if you want me to pray something specific!
x

Becky - posted on 12/26/2015

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Step parenting is soooo frustrating at times. And although the kids can be hard at times, all kids can. I am just so tired of fighting with my husband's ex. Not that we actually fight, she takes the kids away whenever she feels it is necessary, she also works for CPS so she spitefully uses her job at will. The kids feel completely uncomfortable sometimes and today is one of those days. She told the kids she doesn't want them around me, because it's just not in their best interest. Every single time the kids start getting close, a little too close for her comfort, she causes a huge problem, yanks them out of our home, makes them feel uncomfortable. Tells them awful things about me and their dad and it just gets old. I sometimes feel like just throwing in the towel and forgetting it. We have 4 children who live with us full time and then his 2 makes 6 total. Our kids are constantly feeling uncomfortable not knowing what his ex wife will do next. She is so manipulative and I just can't compete with that. I don't have the time or will power to be destructive 24/7, even if it's towards her. I just can't do it. I can't constantly fight to make sure the kids know we love them when it's a constant constant battle!!! UGH!! I'm just tired of crying about this all the time.

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Thanks Amanda! :) Did you see my other post on Friday? We won full physical and legal custody AND we got permission to move our family to Australia!!! SO HAPPY!!! :D

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Well I got a whopper. My husband's grandfather passed away earlier tonight and we have court tomorrow. I need LOTS of positive energy in my life and my family right now!

Melanie - posted on 05/14/2011

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I love this idea also. All of us SM's have been in the same situation at some point. It's nice to know that you are not alone. I am ALWAYS sending positive thoughts and prayers to all the SM's out there.

Hollie - posted on 05/13/2011

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yes this is a great idea! I will be praying for all of us SM's who are going through some what difficult hard times. We live in a world where everyone just wants to belittle people and put down people! I know my situation needs a prayer!

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Great idea Amanda! I don't have anything at the moment (though I'm sure I will in a week or so), but I wanted to post so I would get updates and know when others post so I can be thinking of them :)

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