Sherri - posted on 02/05/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
I'm currently 4 and a half months pregnant. My husband has a 14 year old that lives with us full time and we have a 16 year old foster daughter. I found out a couple of weeks ago that my parents are moving 14 hours away (from Ontario to Peachtree, Georgia) this spring. This means that I also have to take on overseeing the care my 24 year old autistic brother as well. He's almost completely non-verbal and since he lives in a facility (behavioural problems and my mom had a massive heart attack and is being tested for MS), overseeing his care is extensive as there's been some issues with sub-standard care.
I'm feeling very overwhelmed lately; I can't sleep very well and can't seem to turn off my brain.
Aside from things like finances, freaking out about if I'm going to be a good mom and time off/daycare, a HUGE concern that I have is my SS. He steals, lies, throws temper tantrums where he slams doors, screams and throws things... he's very emotionally reactive to the point that at 14, I had to get my mom to watch him last week when I was working and he was off school for exams becuase he can't be trusted alone in the house. I'm worried that his antics are going to wake up a new born baby or that my child is going to end up caught in the crossfires of his temper. I had a dream that he was holding the baby and my husband told him to pick up after himself, so he slammed the baby down on the couch beside him....
I don't know how to approach this issue. I'm becoming increasingly paranoid about the idea of leaving him alone in a room with the baby or even letting him hold her. I have no idea how to bring this up to my husband or if my fears are logical or pregnancy paranoia. HELP!