Problems with the Bio mom...

Denise - posted on 06/26/2009

They Never go away and the kids will alway's try to see how they can ply you against each other. It' a game for the Bm's and they teach the kids to play. Been a step-mom for 13 years and been played by both Bio mom and step daughters lots of fun . Games to be played will be just smile and smile more. This year was a good one cause i let her know what i thaught of her parenting only because the kids are old enough and don't live with her anymore . They are gooood at manipulating and will try anything keep your guard up with the moms and love the kids unconditionally and let them know you love them . And you can only hope for the best. Good Luck > I know what it's like

Jessie - posted on 06/25/2009

Di,

You are so right we had no contact for a little over a year. It was the best year that we had Bree.Were tryin to get it pack to that point. But the courts here suck thay really dont' anything to her.

Di - posted on 06/25/2009

You would think these women would be grateful that someone comes along that actually loves their kid and yet some of the bm's do everything in their power to destroy a good and positive relationship in the kids life. Fear, insecurity you name it. I am so glad that I don't have to deal with my bm, we have a great relationship now because we have no contact. Some people aren't meant to be friends, well me and my bm are that way. And no, they never do really disappear. Funny how Cinders and Snow Whites mum did....lol

Jessie - posted on 06/24/2009

Betty,



You don't know her mom...OMG...lol

Jessie - posted on 06/24/2009

Tabetha,

The only thing i can tell you I have learned throw the bast 7 years is just never turn your back or trust them cause when you do BAM they will do something to you everytime. What get's me is Bree is a good kid but like now she is at he mom's for 1/2 the summer thats when things get bad. In the 7 years her mom has payed child support 1 year. And they will not do anything about it. I love Bree but her mom knows how to turn her. Bree has now come up to the point she don't feel I should be aloud to disaplin her. I mean come on she lives with me what am I to do let her do what she wants till her dad comes home from work. Im just at a point I don't know what to do. I love her and I want her to be happy but I also what whats best for her.

Betty - posted on 06/24/2009

Six more years start the count down. Just ignore her and she will go away someday.

Tabetha - posted on 06/24/2009

I wish I had some words of wisdom..but, unfortunately, I don't I'm knew at the whole stepmom experience and so far it has not been good. He has two boys 6 and 5...We've been together a year and nothing's really clicked with me and the boys...mostly because their mom influences them. She is horrid! I try so much to be nice to them and make sure that they are feeling like a part of the family...but they don't listen (to anyone) and are just flat out naughty boys. Their dad and I recently had a baby girl...they could care less about her. Their mother does anything she can to get more and more money out of him and cause nothing but undeserved grief! The only thing I've ever done to her was love her ex and care about her children, but apparantly that's not enough. He is a great dad to all 3 kids and a great partner to me! Sorry, about my rambling - just please, know that you are not alone!!! Any helpful words for me?

Tabetha - posted on 06/24/2009

I wish I had some words of wisdom..but, unfortunately, I don't I'm knew at the whole stepmom experience and so far it has not been good. He has two boys 6 and 5...We've been together a year and nothing's really clicked with me and the boys...mostly because their mom influences them. She is horrid! I try so much to be nice to them and make sure that they are feeling like a part of the family...but they don't listen (to anyone) and are just flat out naughty boys. Their dad and I recently had a baby girl...they could care less about her. Their mother does anything she can to get more and more money out of him and cause nothing but undeserved grief! The only thing I've ever done to her was love her ex and care about her children, but apparantly that's not enough. He is a great dad to all 3 kids and a great partner to me! Sorry, about my rambling - just please, know that you are not alone!!! Any helpful words for me?