Barbara - posted on 02/25/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )
I just want to say I am proud of the journey I have had being a step mom. I have been with my step sons dad for 14 yrs. We had struggles with my step sons mom in the beginning with visitation, and all the other hassles. We have been for a time, in a better place, no bitterness, no fighting, none of the usual step parenting issues for years.
His dad and I are planning to get married, getting it right! lol. When we told him he was happy. We are planning to have all the boys (we have 2 sons together) in the wedding instead of having grooms men. (Jr. grooms men). I was talking to my step son about walking down the aisle with his 1/2 brother, (who doesn't want to be in the wedding, because he is a nervous nelly). I kinda said something like "It's not like you want to." He said "Sure I would." I nearly wanted to faint. Wow! I have maybe thought he just put up with me and the kids. I think I truely know he does care or even love me enough to walk me down the aisle. Ok, now I am in tears of joy. I have prayed for this for a long time, and I just want moms to know with a little patience and unconditional love from your heart, things will turn around.
I remember a time when he was little maybe 5. He told me he hated me. I looked right back at him and said "i don't care, I still love you." Even when they hate you the most, we still need to show them love. Being a step mom is the hardest job.