Naomi - posted on 05/26/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
My step son has gone through hell with his bio mom, she does stuff all the time like tell him he hurts her on purpose cause it's in his dna and that he is just like his father and out to get her. Recently it has gotten worse and his behavior while here on visitation (every other weekend) has gotten horrendous. The most recent visit with him he was complaining about his back hurting. We assumed there was no previous injury so his dad popped his back and we put some aspercream on his back. 2 days later the BM is posting that he has a compression fracture that was healing until he came here and due to his father popping his back he now is alot worse and has a pulled muscle. That it has nothing to do with anything going on there but that it is something that happened here. The original injury is claimed to happened last week when he was at a playground and went down a pole and some kid did as well and landed on his head. On that note when he was picked up for visitation nothing was mentioned about the injury or anything being wrong.
I'm personally horrified because of not knowing about his orignial back injury anything could have happened accidentally. Since we had no knowledge of the issue he spent the weekend outside playing, riding bikes and wrestling with his friends. I'm great full he didn't get any worse than he did, however my head is spinning in horror thinking of how easy it would have been with him having that injury already for him to be paralyzed due to us not knowing. That and how much worse things could have been.
What can I possibly do? That and how can I protect my daughter from the possibility of something happens if he comes over and we don't know what is going on and he does get hurt? If she doesn't tell us and something happens even though we are unaware doesn't that still mean we are responsible for it?