Anna - posted on 02/16/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
BM is being very greedy! She sells the house and keeps the proceeds, demands £500 a visit, claims full benefits and is now asking for more money through the CSA! WHAT MORE DOES THIS WOMAN WANT?! For the past 4yrs she has made our lives hell! I've bent over backwards to please and still she wants more!
I'm pulling my hair out because for the past year we have paid a set amount of maintenance on time every time to her. We have a couple of visits where SD confides in us about her home life (BMs boyfriend threatened to pick her up and throw her through a window aswell as other threats, her 13yr old sister beats her up, her maternal grandmother calls her a f*****g bitch, her 22yr old brother travels back and forth from Canada at BMs expense) we Went through a custody battle over a year ago (another LONG story) we dropped it because SD refused to see us, we didn't want to put her through anymore pain or anguish.
We've told SD to speak to BM about her problems because believe it or not she can be sensible. BM lays a guilt trip on SD by crying and saying you don't love me. We told SD to speak to a teacher but the school just pat her on the head and say run along. BM stops her from seeing us so the only way SD can get her problems out is to write in a diary. BM found the well hidden diary, read it, and then accused me of telling SD BM hates her, WTF!?
We've told BM some of the serious things SD has told us but BM informs the school who ignores SD. We won't go to social services because they made a hash of the last investigation where SD was 'at risk' in BMs home. No one will listen to our concerns.
My goodness this is a long one! apologies. If anyone knows of any other option that we have to help SD, not necessarily go for custody but some one to make BM take SD to counselling, please advise.
I'm at my wits end trying to work out what to do without causing my own child and SD any stress.