Christa - posted on 06/22/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have two step kids boy, 11 and girl 8. They are good kids, the 8 year old has some behavioral problems but nothing major just a little bratty. Anyway they live with their mother 12 hours away. The second she and my husband split up she ran home to mommy (6 hrs away) and then she followed husband #3 (my husband was #1) another 6 hrs further away. So needless to say we hardly ever get to see them. We have one daughter and another due in Feb. Here's my problem.
Their mother doesn't recognize that it takes two people to break up a marriage, in fact the only reason they got married is because she got pregnant with their son after dating for 2 months. Anyway she blames my husband for everything and is constantly blaming him for leaving the family, when he didn't he left her and she took the kids to the other side of the country. We don't have money to get a lawyer and fight her for them and she constantly wants more money and makes it close to impossible to see the kids. As a result I HATE her, I feel like we waste so much money on her and she doesn't even use it on the kids. I feel like it's hurting the life my children are going to have because she's so hell bent on punishing my husband. I know how much it hurts him to not see his kids and I try to be sympathetic to that, but since I hardly ever see them I really don't have a relationship with them. They are like cousins to me. So I really could care less if we see them or not I just see them as a burden. Secretly I wish my husband would just give up his rights, since I feel like he doesn't have any anyway. Does anyone else feel this way? Am I an awful person? Help, I need some advice from someone who's been there.