Deborah - posted on 06/09/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )
My SD is 7 and at that age where she speaks her mind without realising it hurts people. Its mostly to her BM. At our last visitation whenever she wanted me she would say mommy her BM asked "what" and Eva would pop off "not you, her" and point to me. I know this hurt her BM you could see the hurt in her eyes. I never corrected her am I wrong for that? She has alot of unresolved anger issues with her BM and is now expressing it(Her BM abused her when she was little.). She no longer asks about her unless we're at a visitation with her. Eva just had eye surgery and she didn't even want her BM there. (we werent going to allow it anyway since it was scary enough without the added confusion from her BM.) Half the time anymore when she's refering to her BM she says her name and not mom. She told me I am her mom. I never correct her for her opinions of her BM am I wrong for all this. Should I let her keep her opinions? I don't want her to think she can't express her opinion.
****Just to add a note-She has called me mommy since about 2 minutes after her daddy proposed, we have never stopped her from thins because this is the choice she made. I don't concider her my step daughter either. I'm the same way with her brother and sister****
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