Silly Concern

Georgetta - posted on 06/03/2010

I agree with Megan refer to urself as mom n he will pick that up. My SS goes between calling me MOM and G. My daughter thinks that it is a joke, she is two. So she will go "G" and then giggle followed by mommy. It is cute.

Charlottle - posted on 05/23/2010

My SS calls me by name but my 6 year old has never called anything but mom. Once and a while if I do not answer right away she may call me by my name. All of us called me mom to her when we spoke to her. My SS included. Just stress you are her mom and all will be well.

Mandie - posted on 05/22/2010

I had this same issue and yr not being paranoid, my daughter DID start calling me by my name and I hated it- I'm her mother and I've earned the right to be called 'mummy'. What we did was (b/c my SS's had previously asked to call me mum but I said no for their safety as their mother reeeeeally wouldn't have liked it) we used our biodaughter's nickname, with 'mum' attached to it for the boys to call me- so for example if your son's name is Thomas and you call him Tom they can call you Tom's mum. We told them it's not forever, it's only until she's old enough to understand you guys have different mums. Last year she was old enough and her father and I explained the situation so we told them she gets it now, you can call me by my name again but they choose to still use the 'stepnickname'.

My SS's mother mocked it at the time and still does but at least they aren't forced to call me mum and my child can and does and (mostly) everyone's happy.

Mellisa - posted on 05/19/2010

Yes I had this concern as well, we had custody of my SD 3mths after having our D, I simply had everyone refer to me as mummy/mama all the time around my D and it was no problem. As a matter of fact my SD chose to call me mummy/mama as well.

Michelle - posted on 05/10/2010

Your son will never call you by your first name if you dont let him. He may get confused a few times...just simply correct him. My son did the same thing. You seem to think that you have no control over what your own son calls you. When you teach him to talk...are you gonna teach him to say "Crystal" or are you gonna teach him "Mommy"? Is simple, really.

Sandy - posted on 05/08/2010

Your son will probably call you a mixture of both as the same things happened to me. I know its really really hard to deal with these issues and it sometimes seems as though our feelings as parents are so sensitive and raw. Really though most of these things that kids say are completely innocent and not in any way meant to hurt. As your baby gets old enough to understand the situation he wont make those mistakes and until then just laugh and giggle with him when he does and correct him if you feel the need

Jenn - posted on 05/08/2010

Been there..worried about it too.. and it turns out i worried for nothing lol. Your son will know to call you mommy whether someone else calls you buy your first name or not. I baby sit my nieces all week who call me by my first name, and my step son calls me by my first name. My daughter grew up hearing this an still calls me mommy. There are times when she is being silly and calls me by my first name ( she is 3 1/2 now) but i don't take it to hart because its just silliness. When she was about 2 she started to call me by name but then we would say to her that I am mommy and that's daddy (pointing). Basically that was the end of it. Your always saying things like Come to mommy or mommy loves you.... etc.. He will know. Dont stress over it to much.

Crystal - posted on 05/08/2010

Thanks, everyone, I know that it may sound silly. It would just break my heart if my son called me by my first name. Just hearing your stories and advice has made me feel better. Thanks, and Happy Mothers Day to all of you!!!

Betty - posted on 05/08/2010

Most people will refer to you as mom when talking to your children so this shouldn't be a problem. As the baby becomes more active the boy's will most likely say things like, "go give that to mommy". Also, your baby would need to be at least 17 months old before he is able to pronounce your name. By then he will be calling you momma because it's easy to say and you respond to it.
It's possible that your stepsons will start calling you mommy so they aren't left out.

Brittany - posted on 05/08/2010

I have never had this problem as my ss calls me mommy too! : )

But growing up I had a step mother whom I called by her first name. When I was 10 she and my dad started having kids, they had 2 boys and a girl. Despite the fact that I have always called her by her first name, I always have and will continue to call her mommy to her 3 kids.

Although it is rather funny because my little sister and my ss are only 19 months apart so my sister has called my dad and step mom grandma and grandpa a couple times. : ) we all got a good laugh at that!

Penny - posted on 05/08/2010

Do your stepsons live with you? If not then it shouldn't be an issue because your son will be with you constantly and call you mom. Especially if he only hears his brothers doing it every other weekend or whatever. And if they do live with you then just reinforce it with the baby and have his brothers help by saying "that's mommy." I have an almost 2 year old and a 6 year old SD. She's really good about referring to me as "mama" when talking to her sister even though she calls me by my first name. I agree with Megan to have your husband also refer to you as mom. I know my husband will saying "There's mama" etc. Don't worry, your son will know you are his mommy!

Megan - posted on 05/07/2010

I have a 12 year-old SD and 11 year-old SS who both call me Megan. I have a two year-old daughter with my husband. I never really thought about this possibly being a problem and for us it hasn't been. I do understand your concern because when my daughter says "Mommy!" my heart melts every time. Have your husband call you Mommy in front of your son. And refer to yourself as Mommy to him. I really think everything will be fine.