Sherri - posted on 04/02/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I feel bad for saying this, or even feeling it. My 14 year old SS is such a nightmare. Steals, lies, refuses to do homework or chores. It got so bad that he was even refusing to do his own laundry- all he cared about was going to live with his mother. We wouldn't let this happen because there's ZERO rules, boundaries or ANY kind of discipline at his mothers.
We've tried everything with this kid- 4 years of counselling, support, rewards, bribery, punishments, bought him a cell phone hoping he would strive to keep it, psych assessment... the list goes on forever. All of this for nothing.
So after 6 weeks of constant temper tantrums (including calling his father everything but a Canadian) and drama, my husband sent his son to his mothers. That was 2 weeks ago and we haven't heard from him since. He seems to have even gotten worse. 2 days after he went to his mothers, we got a call from his school that he skipped all but 1 class. (we informed his mother and a day later, he posted on facebook all about his new blackberry that his mother bought him-holy great parenting there mom)
I'm not sure how to go forward. After years of hate resenating out of this kid, all I can feel is relief and a sense of peace that he's not here. I'm terrified about the idea of seeing this kid or even hearing from him. I've had such anxiety over the past couple of years whenever he gets home from his mothers or from school because we never know when or if he's going to flip out. I am due to have my daughter in July and because of the unpredictability of my step son, I don't even want him around my baby.
What do I do?????????? I can't seem to turn off the anger or anxiety over this.