so lost!

LeeAnna - posted on 05/02/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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im so lost right now....up until last year my SS and SD lived with my DH and i...DH had full custody.....i was against her going for a visit as it had been 2+ years since my SD had seen her BM ( they are NOT close )

ok sooo long story short my SD went to her BM's for a visit last summer...many terrible things happened there while she was gone....my sweet lil baby left and i was returned an angry mouthy mad child....
my SD has been having night terrors wakes up cryin,..refuses to sleep with a shirt on and is just being a "brat"

this morning b4 school i was chatting with her about why she has been acting out..she broke down into a fit of tears and told me that while she was gone her brother had crept into her bed and put his hand in her pants...

my DH is at work and dont even know yet
I told BM and she said she knew about it and had given my SS "trouble" over it....why she didnt tell us i have no idea....

now im so lost s to help my SD....
i was in her shoes as a child ( not my brother)..i can undertsand her pain....but no one believed me so i have no idea how to help her!!!

im a mess as i try and reach out for help,comfort.ideas????????????!!!!!!!


one broken hearted mommy

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Louise - posted on 05/02/2012

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All you need to do is support her. Comfort her as best you can and let her talk to you. Her father will go nuts, as is only natural. Calm him down and tell him she needs comfort and support not shouting and ranting. Personally I would support the child if she did not want to return to her birth mothers again. If she can not prevent this then the child is not safe. If you can handle this as a family, but if she is still hurting and lashing out then she may need to see a councilor. Bless her what a horrible thing to happen. Just keep telling her she is safe now and this will never happen again.

LeeAnna - posted on 05/02/2012

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im so sorry for the spelling and typos it was the best i could do :'(