Becky - posted on 08/03/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
I have to vent and know there are other step moms out there with this same problems!!?? I am 8 months pregnant so maybe this is just getting to me more now?!?!
I have two SD 17 and 15. They come and go from our house as they please and tell their dad he is "stupid" or a "moron" if he asks where they are going. When I was being raised that would have been enough for a smack on the mouth...not here. When we walk out the door they ask where we are going and he stops and gives them a five minute explanation. I do think this to be a little backwards.
I was looking for something the other day in the bathroom and found food wrappers and empty pop cans in the cupboard..so I told my husband about them. He told me I need to lay off them! Lay off what? the trash can is amazingly right under the cupboard that all this stuff was in. Am i asking to much? With being pregnant I am not supposed to clean out the cat litter box ( I do this daily when not prego) so I asked the SD's to do it...guess how often it gets done.....every wednesday when trash goes out...Yet they complain that the cat pees on the carpet in the kitchen...well what would you do if your toilet was overflowing??? Clean out her litter box and amazingly she will use it!!
My husband got mad at me the other day when I told him that the SD would not be watching the baby on the way. I told him I would hire a sitter first. My view on it is if you can't let the dog out when its crying at the door what are they going to do with my child when he/she is crying? I don't trust them enough to leave my child in their care. I don't feel bad about this.
Needless to say hubby and I don't fight over anything but the SD's. I am to the point that I am ready to leave because its my fault because I won't "Lay off" them. Well they have both been on probation and nothing was done about it at home. There were no consequenses. Now with school about to start and sports about to start the need their physicals...they were offered at school...I filled out their paperwork and put the money on the table...money was gone but they still need their physicals...needless to say I won't take them..Its my fault they can't play sports! When do they have to take responsibility???? Do I need to wipe their butt now too.....
Okay..I am done venting..lol Just stressed out and ready to leave husband and SD's and run!!!