Kelly - posted on 09/12/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
I recently got married to a great man. He has two daughters (10 and 12) and has joint custody. The problem is that they have never been taught to clean up after themselves and their room is never clean. They have clothes (clean and dirty), toys, paper and markers, hairbands, shoes, blankets etc. all over the floor all the time. It drives me crazy. I have raised 3 sons on my own for 16 years and I have always made them clean up after themselves. I have talked to my husband and he agrees they need to keep the room clean. He tells them to go clean the room and they go and watch tv in their room instead. They may pick up a few things but they end up right back on the floor before the day is over. I am getting really tired of telling him that they need to clean their room. I am still at the point where I don't want to tell them because everything is still new. I am beginning dread the times they are here and I don't want to feel that way. Lately they have been coming over and spending 95% of the time in their room. I am at a loss. I think they are starting to resent me because they know it is me that is "making" them clean their room. Any advice?