Kristina - posted on 10/13/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )
There is one thing I will never understand and that is why people force their own children to do something they do not want to do. My step son tells us that he is made to call his step dad "dad" and his bio. father by his name. The last time he was here, he kept getting so confused when he was say dad to my husband. He would start talking about his mom and step dad and he would slip up and say " my parents" or "my dad." This hurts my husband so much. From what we are told by him the reason his mom makes him call him dad is because they have a small baby and they did not want her to start calling her father by his name, although she does it anyway. She is now one and I am very sure that she knows who her daddy is and knows how to say dad to her own father. We don't want to say anything to the BM because we don't want to risk the chance of getting him in trouble or her not letting us see him again. We have struggled with her over the past 3 yrs on and off about seeing him. She will let us see him for a while and then last Jan. it just stopped. She blames us for it of course because he lives 2 hrs away it's hard sometimes when we are struggling with money to go get him every other weekend for one day. This was when he was playing sports, we would have to go get him on sat. and bring him home on Sun. and that was just too much for us esp. when we didn't have the money for it. She has tried to keep him from talking to his father up until a few wks ago. Now we are "allowed" to get him every other weekend I guess until we make her mad again. He is starting to see her for who she really is, he has said so himself and just like I have warned her, she is going to turn her own son against her. I think it's sad when a 10 yr old says that his life is miserable at home and that sometimes he wished he would just die. He hates living there, he says they are mean to him. I feel so bad for him but most of all because he is so confused when it comes to calling his step dad "dad" and his real father by his name. What kind of person would do this to their own child??