Kimberley - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 49 moms have responded )
Well, I'm a Bio-Mom and I don't try to control the stepmother...I have enough to do without trying to control another adult, I just wish she would act like one. She yells and curses at my 13 year old daughter as well as her 11 year old son from a previous relationship (bio-dad deceased). I don't go out of my way to make her life miserable I don't have to she's married to misery. When she had their baby I sent a nice basket of stuff for her...lotions, bath salts, etc because I know everybody sends stuff for the baby and not the new mother. I've had the clothes issue with my ex since the divorce and the SM doesn't help the situation any. My daughter wore uniforms throughout elementary school and they'd eventually end up more at one house than the other and they couldn't understand why. Well riddle me this...what about days when my daughter is out of school and not in a uniform; or when she gets picked up by either party and she's in a uniform but when she gets dropped off she's not? I really wish SM's would stop saying "we get visitation"...if the bio-Mom is still alive and involved with her child(ren) regardless of the amount of time spent...it's the father's visitation not yours. Did YOU divorce the ex-wife? Is YOUR name anywhere in the J.O.D or custody papers? I seriously doubt it. I don't want the SM to treat my daughter as if she were her own because she's not...she is the child of another woman who carried her for nine months and went through labor to get her here. You chose to become involved in the life of a man who already had a child so you went into the situation with both eyes open...deal with it and quit pissing about it. I applaud the SM's who grin and bear it for the sake of the children. They didn't pick their parents and more than likely didn't pick the SM their father did. The kid(s) will eventually grow up and move out (that's the plan right?). Okay...SM's hit me....I can take it!