Tired of "Welfare Calls" to Sherriffs Dept.

Georgetta - posted on 06/03/2010

I agree Holly, they have grounds 2 take her to court 4 contempt. How can you guys set up n e thing for visits for them to see her n their new sibling if u have no clue where she is. Wut she is doing is building herself a case, if she can't call u guys, lets get the cops out to the house n get CHIPS involved 2 make it luk as if u guys r alienating her.

Lindsay - posted on 05/22/2010

I would get a new phone number that she cant get the number of. the kids are number one. and if she is going to be that immature about it then forget her. the kids dont need a mother like that.

Jodi - posted on 05/20/2010

The police in our county now have the BM all figured out and think she is a big joke. She has lied straight to them and called the police liars and they tend to not like that!
We are very happy that the judge granted my fiance his motion for a contempt of court hearing!! What comes around goes around and she will hopefully get the punishment she deserves for being a stupid b%*$h... What is funny is the BM recently got a job in a nearby correctional facility (I DO NOT know how!!) and so now she thinks she knows everything about the law and that she is above the law...NOT!! She needs to remember I work for a sheriifs department and am getting a bachelors in criminal justice...she regrets getting involved with me I know..She was sooo happy when she could freely walk all over my fiance and abuse him..she doesn't get away with it now!

Treasure - posted on 05/20/2010

To Holly: We have not thought about filing contempt on her! I will mention this to my husband and see if he wants me to ask the attorney. That is honestly a good one. However, he has wanted to just sit back and see how long she goes on with refusing to provide an address.
To Jodi: If only we could get harassment filed at this point. She literally called 12 times in 3 minutes last night! They won't file yet.
To Betty: The children are learning that police are helpers and not to be feared. The biggest reason they were afraid is because my husband wasn't home. He's always here when she calls the police. It's been so bad that we had to change exchange locations because every other weekend, she would have them at the gas station we met at!

Betty - posted on 05/20/2010

Just teach the kids about police so they understand that they are good people and they will get a kick out of it each time they visit.

Personally, I think bad things happen no matter where you live and the reason cities have a higher crime rate is because there are more people. The odds of something happening are about the same. There can be one preditor that has 100 victoms to choose from or 100 preditors that have 10,000 vitoms to choose from.

That's just my opinion. I live in the city and nothing bad has happened to me or my family.

Jodi - posted on 05/20/2010

I have a problem quite the same as yours with my fiance's ex-wife. She was constantly calling and texting to yell at him about the kids and things that happened 10 years ago in their failed marriage. The BM lets the 12 year old girl (my step daughter) have her own face book where she talks with 15, 16, and 20 year old men with NO supervision obviously. We have continuosly complained about this and the lack of concern and supervision while on the computer and the BM does not care, she wants to be the "fun, good" parent that has no rules. I have stepped up and made rules at our house when the kids are with us and the respect and love as gone way up from the children, kids need rules and boundaries!! The BM has at least 7 times taken us to court for irrational, ridiculous reasons and has been laughed out of court. Finally my fiance was granted a harassment order against her, it helped until the year was up this past April 2nd. On May 5th the BM picked all 3 kids up from school and refused to return them to us for their scheduled time and kept them for 3 weeks until this past tuesday. My fiance filed a contempt of court order and was granted a hearing..yeehaw!! Since the BM can not claim any kind of mistreatment or abuse from anyone in our home including my fiance, she has made false claims that MY son who is 12 is a danger to her children..ha ha ha...My son and my 9 year old step-son are best friends and my son gets along GREAT with all of the other kids. NEVER have we had an issue with any of the kids fighting...She is a mental case!! The BM even went to MY ex-husband and his new wife who I can't stand and hate me, and they told the BM that my son was violent when he lived with them and even fractured his new "step-mothers" jaw...lies! My son's own father sold him out and talked horrible about him to hurt me...what a father. My ex-husband actually has custody of the kids (which he shouldn't, another long story) BUT my 12 year old son and 15 year old daughter hated it with him so much they came to live with me in January of this year..

I just don't know what to do about this nasty worthless BM to get her to move on with her life and leave us alone. It is obvios that her life is so miserable that she needs to ruin everyone elses life to make her happy... When do the kids come first with her?? NEVER!! Sooo much more but I won't bore anyone with the rest right now...drama central...for 2 years now!! It sucks! HELP!!

Holly - posted on 05/19/2010

Even if she hasn't filed for contempt, I would take HER back to court to get HER on contempt. It IS contempt of court for her to not provide you with an address (unless otherwise noted in the custody agreement, but I'm assuming that is not the case here). Honestly, I know we all think of court as this big bad place that is to be avoided at all costs, but I also see it as a place where I can go to in an attempt to make things better.

Not to go off on myself and my situation, but I'll give you an example from our life: My daughter's bm never calls. She never returns calls. She never emails (even though we set up an email specifically for our daughter so they could chat that way). She never even send texts. NEVER. She also lives over 2600 miles away from us, so she never sees our daughter between her vistations (every 3 months - and sometimes longer. The last time our daugher saw her bm was on January 1st of this year). I know you may be thinking "My God, she's lucky!!!" but in reality I would rather have the bm call if she wants to be a part of our daughter's life. So, we are taking it to court. We are giving her the option of signing away her rights (or just giving us full custody to start) OR she can sign an order stating she will call at least once a week (we'll even do specific times if we have to). I think it's sad that we have to take her to court over something as trivial as this, but it's really the only answer for us.

Sometimes, I beleive that court is the only action, and therefore the right action to be taken. As long as you guys have your documentation all in order it should be fine and you could probably get pretty much everything you want (given the info you've given here of course - it's always best to check with an attorney before doing anything!).

Good luck hun!