Connie - posted on 03/04/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
My husband has custody of his 3 daughters for the past 4 years. We have been battleing with her to help pay child support but she refuses to get a job. She was told at the first conference that she was going to have to pay a certain amount and she did not agree. Her excuse at that time was she was going through a divorce(with her latest husband) and she did not have a car to get to work. She filed to have it brought in front of a judge. She then harrassed us about making her pay for support and even stated that she would give up all rights to the kids before she would pay support. By the next time we went to court in front of the judge she had filed to go on SSI and this suspended any monies she would have to pay. She claimed she could not work due to post traumatic stress disorder( aload of crap). Now 4 years later after being in conferences every 4-5 months she is now finally as of december off SSI but still refuses to work. She does not go for any counseling she has enrolled in college full time and now is telling the kids she can't work because she has agoraphobia( which will be he next excuse at the conference). We are scheduled for another conference on april 7 to re-evaluate her status. My husband refuses to take a lawyer so we are on our own. She needs to be stopped with her excuses and get a job and help take care of her kids. My husband even said he would stop this if she would just contribute something to the kids once an a while. She recieved a $90,000 cash divorce settlement with her previous husband and when we went to the last conference she claimed she spent it all (in 6 months) and they let her go. we got nothing. Does anyone have any suggestions for when we go to the conference on how to approach this again. There is no reason she cannot work except for the fact that she is lazy. If she can attend college and be fine with that why can't she have a job?