Megan - posted on 03/09/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )
There are several branches involved in the latest of an on-going battle, but I was hoping to get some feedback on one specific complaint my husband's ex has made. Specifically if anyone has encountered this in court and how the courts view this.
My husband's ex has formally complained that he shares his visitation time with other people and she is asking the court to mandate that if he cannot personally spend time with the kids then she has the option to keep them with her.
Please let me clarify. On days that my husband has had mandatory overtime or on winter vacation days on which he has had to work and that has overlapped with his visitation time, he has allowed the children to stay with their maternal grandmother. She and her husband live very close to my husband's place of employment, she has a safe home, she has been in their lives since birth, she dotes on her grandchildren like all grandmas do, and we trust her. I have met her personally and seen how caring she is and how much she loves them. She has also been very understanding of my husband and my situation.
The children's mother has recently decided that she doesn't want the children to see their grandmother (hence the motion), but she had no problem leaving them with her for two weeks so that she could go to Europe with a boyfriend. I am not sure where this tension between the two has come from, nor do I care to know, honestly. All I know is that she is their grandmother, she loves them, and offers to help us when we need it.
So, basically, my husband's ex wants the court to mandate how their father allocates his visitation time, and if he cannot personally be with them she wants the option to take them back. I am interested to know if anyone has had a similar experience and if the courts are likely to consider her request. Thanks so much.