What Is Your "Parenting Time" Schedule With Your Step-Kids?

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Amy - posted on 06/03/2011

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Breanne I couldn't agree more our situation was a difficult one our daughter is constantly being treated different than her bm other children both bio and step...She comes home crying among other things we try to support her the best we can we have relied on being honest with her and try or best never to "bash" bio mom or her family. we got custody of our daughter because Bio walked out for 10 weeks no call nothing.

Sarah - posted on 06/08/2011

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We live 2 hours away, we used to have the girls every other week but since the oldest started kindergarten we only get them every other weekend during the school year. during the summer we're going to take them for 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off. we are hoping to move an hour closer so we can affors to have them every weekend during the school year.

The more we want the girls the more his ex tries to prevent us. I hope other custodial paresnts realize that as much as you would love to have your kids all the time its really good for them to see the other parent just as much expecially if they have other siblings.

Bri - posted on 06/03/2011

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Im just glad i want to get my point across clear, there are tons of situations of why that parent didn't have their children. could be work schedules , could be improper notification, (not being served) no representation, college, no help from family nor friends....just saying..

Megan - posted on 06/03/2011

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Yes Breanne I agree! Sorry i got this notification on my cell, and yes sounds legit to me your statistics. There is always a reason to why a certain parent has custody it isnt proving the other parent unfit but stating the facts. Unless there is significant proof on your ex BD or BM, then stick to the facts. Remember you are under oath...I have seen people deceitful and use the children against the other parent. I think sometimes in us humans not saying us - but in general we dont use common sense. Like if we are happy that the BM or BD isn't around we are kidding ourselves. I had a situation with a client that BM didnt want BD because of pot? It doesnt state you can parent your child if you smoke pot? But yes supervised visits are what is best unless you can stay clean for a lenghy period of time! Just using an example.

Bri - posted on 06/03/2011

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Its not a matter of winning the children its find a parent that is best fit, there has been a study that 52% of all children that live with the custodial parent did it off lies , intimidation, and just to be cruel to the other parent like ha ha! Im in control! We are all mostly like this in a certain way or manner. The person who has custody isn't a matter of winning its a matter at that time of court theother parent seems deemed to take care of a child. A lot of people take their own child(ren) and use them against the other parent and play them against one another. its really sad,

More or less, the custodial parent by more than a little past half, is deceitful, harsh and can be crude. Just saying. I have friends that wont let the other parent around their own child just because of they dont like who they are with, no CS payments, or just being evil.

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Kimi - posted on 06/07/2011

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We used to have 50% now we have her 2 to 3 days a week(Friday, Saturday, and random unexpected days). It's always up to BM to decide when we can have her, sometimes she goes out of town on weekends so we get SD on other days, as long as she offers a bit of consistancy for SD (and she does) we will let her continue to run the show. We're not sure how things will change when she is going to school, we should probably arrange a meeting and bounce some ideas off of eachother before BM decides what she wants to do. The way we see it, the judge is always going to side with her (because she's beautiful, reasonably sane, and we live in Utah)so whats the point in taking her to court?

Elizabeth - posted on 06/07/2011

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We have custoday of my SD and she spends the summer and every other Christmas with her BM. At least this is the schedule they had set up when BM had custody and my husband was living in another state. Both my husband and BM are in the Navy, but now my husband has retired so we will not be moving anymore.
My SD was given the choice at age 12 that she could choose who she wanted to live with and she choose to come and live with us. The ironic part of this situation is that she really did not have to choose but her BM made her. The BM could have transferred to our area and SD would have had the same situation here as she did in Hawaii. My husband told the BM back in 2006 that she either take orders to Hawaii or he would fight her for custody. He had been in a different state for 3 years the SD and BM. Now I understand it must suck for her to follow him around but she always has a guarenteed job and income plus it is suppose to be what is best for their daughter. Orginally my husband had orders to move where SD and BM lived but he received a promotion and so they changed his orders. I find it sad that the BM made our SD choose but in all honesty it is better for us and now my husband gets the time with my SD that he deserves.

Desi - posted on 06/05/2011

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We have my sk every weekend during the school yr and everyother week during the summer.

Megan - posted on 06/03/2011

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yes and good point it was what I was trying to almost say LOL . SOME PARENT just dont have a clue how it hurts, children want to se their bio's get "along," not fight argue, later on in life if you have 'younger' children (live in different homes) they will grow up as teen's and tell the parents to KNOCK IT OFF ALREADY!

Megan - posted on 06/03/2011

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I thought BM's or non custodial get 1/2 the summer maybe its different in your state?

Amy - posted on 06/03/2011

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Our beautiful daughter lives with us now (for going on 3years) BM gets every other weekend at the moment and 2 14 day periods during the summer holidays in even years..Hopefully Ours will change for the better soon :)

Megan - posted on 06/03/2011

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Well my bio's are gone at their Dads 1st half and my SK's are with mom so its no kids for now its too weird!!!

Bri - posted on 06/01/2011

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we have my SK all the time BM occasional weekends and we let her have 6 weeks of this summer IM SURE my SK will be back sooner than that she cant take them on long!

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SD lives 8 hours away from us. We go up once a month to where she lives and spends the weekend with her. We rotate odd and even years for holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Easter school break/Spring Break). This summer we have her for one week at beginning of June, one week at end of June, and 2 weeks in July/August.

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OUr daughter lives with us full time. RIght now she sees her bio mom for 7 hours every Saturday, but that's a temp order for the next 6 weeks, then we go back to court. We're trying to get sole custody right now...

Melanie - posted on 05/31/2011

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My husband and I get the twins everyother weekend, and in the summertime it's week on week off. But we are trying to go for full custody so hopefully that'll change! :)

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