Jessica - posted on 01/04/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )
My 13 year old stepdaughter lives with my husband and I full-time. She's a great kid and my husband is normally a great father, but like most men he's not as involved with the kids (we have a 14 month old together) as he should be - or not even as much as he thinks he is! He says "I'm home every night" etc. But he spends a LOT of time time playing WOW - I could start a whole new thread on that - and then all the sudden he'll shout for mySD to not do something that I just told her to do. Or some similar situation. Basically, if we were both bio parents I'd think nothing of it. I'd Whine a little now and then, but I wouldn't be feeling like I have a parenting problem. What I'm asking is how do I know when it's ok to say "No you're wrong" even though I'm the step-parent and he's the "real dad". Or should I always be reverting to his decisions no matter how much they differ from what I would do with our son?