Erin - posted on 08/02/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
My SD came to visit us in our home for the long weekend for the first time. We had been working up to this step for years now with many hoops jumped through and bridges burned. She came down while her mother and maternal grandmother fretted endlessly to her paternal GM who drove her down here. Meanwhile she comes down and falls in love with our house, with the state we live in and all of our 'toys' to play with. She sticks to me like glue hangs out with her sis and bro and enjoys some games with her dad. Yet she seems to have a stronger bond with me then her own father. I tried to talk to her about why she has grown so distant and uncomfortable around him when she used to be all over him like glue and she just tells me that she is getting older "i guess" which I can tell is a cop out for how she feels....all the answers she gave me were cop outs. The only one I clung to was that she didn't know him well enough (which she knows more about him then me) so I encouraged her to try to get to know him and to give him a chance. He isn't the easiest guy to understand cause he does have mood swings but he adores her and wants to spend time with her and has worked very hard to keep her a part of his life. From talking to her I can tell that there is parent alienation going on and something more that I can't get a handle on, she's a hard nut to crack, but I feel like Im in the very awkward seat of parent when my DH has taken the place of a SP. Its making him crazy and frustraited and very depressed. What should or could I do?