Karen - posted on 06/16/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
My husband was just awarded primary residential custody of his daughter, 4. During summer, we have 50/50 time, week on week off with BM. But during school, we will have her all week and BM will have only alternating weekends, plus two dinner visits each week. This plan went into effect about 3 weeks before school let out this year. SD goes to preschool at the school where I teach, so I have to either leave with her right after school (or not be able to accomplish anything), or last year I had an older student watch her in my classroom or play with her on the playground until I was finished. The problem is, the parenting plan doesn't state anything about when BM has to tell us which days she is taking her visits each week. It just says the days are to be agreed upon by both parties each week. There were days when she'd call my cell while I was at work to tell me she was picking up that day. I would like to just institute a regular schedule...same days every week. Otherwise it's way too hard to arrange the sitter after school, and way too inconvenient for us to be waiting on her to tell us what days she is taking b/c we can't make any plans for anything else. I don't think we can just tell her, "You get these days and that's that" but that is what hubby will try to do. What's a tactful way of handling this and am I even justified in thinking she should give us at least 48 hours notice-a week's notice would be even better- or a regular schedule?