Does anyone else have a Step Daughter who acts MARRIED to her Father???

Kristy - posted on 01/27/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I have a 14yr old step daughter who I swear would have sex with her own father if he would. I have never seen anything like this. She makes statements like, "Heres Our Song, Daddy" It was WONDERFUL TONIGHT, by Eric Clapton. Shes said I, Me THE WIFE, is trying to Break her and him up. its sooooo gross. I walked in one day and she had on rap music and she was trying to grind on his leg, like shes a stripper. Shes already been pregnant, has anose ring, and can do NO wrong in his eyes, but MY 12 yr old, has good grades is beautiful, she has an opporunity to model, shes a Cheerleader and we are close. he hates my kid, because shes normal. i swear I hate this girl and I have Never felt this way before. I cringe and the sound of her name. i do not want my child near her. Our marriage is ok, except for her. If I dont mention her and he doesnt either we are fine, but any holiday, she ruins. We drove 6 hours to see her for Christmas and never got a Thank you, she was too busy planning her date. Her mother lets the boyfriend stay over and sleep in the same bed with her. Then when we left after 5 mins, she sent him a message...you werent fair to me, you got my brother more, its all Kristys fault. I hate her and thats why I dont see you.....So i wrote a blog about it on another site, they found it, and sent it to my Mother In Law.....YEAH. but the next week on the same site, I found naked pictures of the mother. i think I will send them to my Mother In Law, so she can see what trash really is???? is it just me in this? I need some help. just wandering if its as bad as I think and no one else has ever seen this either. Thanks

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Well my stepdaughter hasnt gone that far but she has got an unhealthy obsession with her father and shes so jealous of me. Shes 24 now married with 2 kids and she still tries to act like the poor little girl that had her daddy stolen by the evil stepmother. Does my head in.

Tracy - posted on 06/12/2013

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You have every right to not be able to stand her. She is disgusting and you really don't deserve that. No woman should have to be pushed aside from her husband because their daughter craves attention. It is all about attention. My step daughter is very similar. ShE has always been very close to her Dad and feels like she should be her #1 priority above everyone, including our 2 kids and me. She constantly manipulates and makes him feel guilty about the smallest things, making herself out to be the one that gets the least out of everyone. I can't even get my kids anything without worrying about how she is going to manipulate her dad to think that my daughter or son just got something that she didn't and wants, when really, what it is is that it's not that she wanted it,. She just wants it because my kids want it. ShE is just a horrible human being and I honestly cannot stand her.

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Christine - posted on 12/17/2013

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I am relieved to see I am not the only one. We only have my 9 year old step daughter half the time, but when she is with us she is constantly rubbing my husbands back and sitting on his lap from the moment he gets her home from school. If he even dare hold our 6 month old son she throws a huge tantrum and gives him a guilt trip that she doesn't get any attention from him. I can't even sit next to him on the couch because she has to be "in the middle" no matter WHERE we go. She gives my son looks sometimes like she means to hurt him too. I am concerned for his safety sometimes and wish she would just go live at her moms house FULL TIME. When she was 4 I thought it was cute that she thought she could marry him... but now I can see there are bigger problems there.... She still hasn't grown out of it, and is constantly challenging me. I had to watch her full time over the summer when she was out of school and I was home with my newborn son... She would go in his room and make tons of noise to wake him up every time I got him down and would make sure I never got any rest. She is the devil's spawn and I can't stand her... I feel like a terrible person, but I don't know what to do!? I have serious doubts that she is even my husbands biologic daughter because she bares no likeness to him or anyone in his family and his baby momma was a total slut and cheated on him a ton! I could never ask him to get a paternity test because she does NO WRONG in his eyes and he would not believe it even if it came back and said she wasn't his. HELP ME PLEASE!

Kristy - posted on 11/27/2013

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I hadn't read this since I posted it, Thank you all for your comments. She is now 18, has a 2 year old son and lives in another state, however she STILL behaves the same way. Her latest mission has been to convince my husband Im having an affair, Im not. She has went to great lengths to make me look guilty. If I hadn't been very sick she would have been able to make me look giolty. I don't understand... In fact I don't care I just want to be left alone. Ive been married for 7 years now. I have tried as hard as I can and I simply don't want to see her or hear her name. When we won custody of her 6 years ago, her bio Mother said there was a change my husband isn't her father!! We thought it was a ploy to make us stop the custody battle, imagine hearing that after 12 years your not the father of your supposed first born child.... My stepdaughter proceeded to get to know the other man, and his wife insisted there be a DNA test, I don't blame her. My step daughter told her father it was negative, but she is still having a relationship with this man.... That tells me it wasn't negative. If it was negative and shes having a relationship with a stranger and letting her son get to know him as a grandparent then she is purely evil. that is so disrespectful toward my husband. I only wish he could see this, the way anyone else would. At least everyone knows what a slut her Mother was.... but that means my husband still may not be her father I mean if she was cheating with one man, there could've been more. Does anyone know what I mean? Thanks for listening

Lisa - posted on 11/27/2013

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Omgoodness I know exactly what you are saying. My stepdaughter is constantly trying to pull her father away from my children and I. She even tried to bet me saying that her father would go back into a store to get something for her after he had just came out. She's constantly trying to "get in his ear" and make up lies about everything. She tries to say that she's treated unfairly and goes to her mother making up things to have her mom call cyf on me and my 2 kids from a previous marriage. She's sneaky and very manipulative. She even pulked a pillow from under our 6 month old daughters head when she was 9 years old. She's 12 now and hangs on him like he's her husband. She locks her arm around his while out in public and those 2 walk ahead of myself, my 2 kids, and our 3 year old daughter. She lays on the couch leaned against him like couples do and says to me "my dad and I decided that. ...." seriously this is putting a huge damper on our relationship. I'm ready to call it quits because it disgusts me. He doesn't see any of this going on though. I don't know what to do anymore :(

Lisa - posted on 11/27/2013

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Omgoodness I know exactly what you are saying. My stepdaughter is constantly trying to pull her father away from my children and I. She even tried to bet me saying that her father would go back into a store to get something for her after he had just came out. She's constantly trying to "get in his ear" and make up lies about everything. She tries to say that she's treated unfairly and goes to her mother making up things to have her mom call cyf on me and my 2 kids from a previous marriage. She's sneaky and very manipulative. She even pulked a pillow from under our 6 month old daughters head when she was 9 years old. She's 12 now and hangs on him like he's her husband. She locks her arm around his while out in public and those 2 walk ahead of myself, my 2 kids, and our 3 year old daughter. She lays on the couch leaned against him like couples do and says to me "my dad and I decided that. ...." seriously this is putting a huge damper on our relationship. I'm ready to call it quits because it disgusts me. He doesn't see any of this going on though. I don't know what to do anymore :(

Sandra - posted on 01/26/2013

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thats not normal take her to all the head docs you can the dad needs to go with the daughter to learn how to get control back. letting a child do what they want makes it worse. make she you go so doc can really understand whats going on the dad will only baby the hole thing. i got pg at 16 im have learning probs was sexually abused from 4 to 12 been married 2xs and have for kids so ya get her help if everyone isnt going to be on the same page then if in were you id leave for you an your daughter. even if you have a child he shouldn't ever treat your child with hate. id put it all on the line with him either we all get her help an all get help together so we all can stay on the same page or pack the bags an leave. even i moved to a shelter do to a bad relation ship. good luck.

T - posted on 11/23/2012

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well i think daddy needs wake up call..give her a good spanking and let her know,no one is trying to take her father or replace her mommy...but in your home, you are ,in a type of parental roll, and SHE NEEDS to respect that fact and take it VERY seriously...or their WILL be consequences...i think alot of this crap comes directly from the girls mother,and the father, is afraid that if he makes the girl mad she wont come back, or mommy will make it worse...

Bexie - posted on 02/13/2011

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I would have to say that she is going way over board. And that its not healthy for her father to have "all saint's syndrome", all children can behave badly. She could be being influenced by someone else. However, the root cause of this could be that she is afraid that her dad may start to either love you or your daughter more than her and thus she lashes out at you. I was daddy's little girl and when he left he broke my heart, as a result my case went in reverse. I bonded to my step-dad and fought over him with his daughter that had been my bf since we were 2. I acted a lot like I was his little wife. I went so far as to even go to work wit him on a daily basis just so that I could make sure that he "loved" me more than the others. This was 10 years ago and I have learned that no matter what he loves me. Under it all I was just really scared that no one loved me anymore when our families joined. Hope this helps and good luck.

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