I hate my stepson

Melissa - posted on 09/24/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My stepson is an obnoxious, arrogant brat. He is only 8 and it is like having his mother here every other weekend. I have a son that is 13 that deals with him. The stepson comes over here and just gets on everyone's nerves, even his dad. But dad wont do anything and it has gotten to the point that my son and I don't want anything to do with him. Dad and I fight every weekend that this child is here. That is just oen more thing I have to look forward to every other weekend is a big hairy fight with my Fiance' Here is what he does. He doesn't listen, and I know this will sound silly to some, but, for years I have told him not to put his hands on the walls, I just painted them a year ago, and because of his grubby little hands all over the walls, I need to paint them again. I have cleaned handprints off of his bedroom walls above his bed where he stand on the bed and just does it to be annoying. I know it is him because I see him do it and he is the shortest one in the house. He won't eat anything I cook. He only wants to play video games. We let the kids play the Call of Duty Games, his Biological Mom won't. When we don't let him play he bugs the crap out of everyone. My friends and their children don't like him and my family has made comments on how he acts. He is jealous of my son and when my family is here the stepson does anything and everything within his power to draw attention away from my son to himself. I have a very passive child, gets along with all the kids. The stepkid is a hitter, he hits if he gets mad or doesn't get his way. The first time I took him to my best friend of 34 years house to swim, he came up behind her 11 year old daughter and Karate chopped her in the neck. He acted like a total ass at my son's 12th birthday party, at the restaurant he was climbing in the windows and chairs, and he put salt in my son's pop when he wasnt looking The step son has a cleft pallet and is not an attractive child, even without the cleft lip he would not be a good looking kid. My son however is a handsome young man and has the personality to match. The stepson is constantly calling him names, ugly, fatty, (my boy is far from fat) dork, etc. Bottom line. I hate this kid, but I love his father. I don't want to give up the relationship, but my tolerance is wearing thin. I don't want the stepkid around me or my son or even in my house anymore. He is only 8, God knows what he will be like when he is 13. HELP

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Ame - posted on 06/15/2012

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Hi all

I have a step son of 9 years. He is one day older than my daughter. I also have a baby of 1 year old.
I married this wonderful man and he has a son. We met when this boy was 6 years old, and everything was all fine and ok. Then six months passed, what a nightmare. This boy DOESNT listen, brakes everything, swears, steels, lies, cheat, bully, disrespectfull talks back. He cant dress properly, brush his teeth or make his bed. He cant even sit up straight and has to lean on everything. He bullies my other two kids softly and as soon as my other two makes a sound my husband yells at them. He cant see fault in anything he's precious son is doing.This boy has a learning disabilty on top of it all, he had to redo Grade 1, he still doensnt know the alphabet or write properly. I went so far to get the help and special school to help my husband. The mother doesnt want to know anything about this. She poms him of to me so that I must help him with his homework then he starts to cry and then nothing happens. The mother of this child is non existant, she rather spend her time at the gym and doing shoping, but she cant even pay her son's school fees or aftercare and we have to support financially and mentally. I have tried everything, I had patience, I tought him over and over and over. Unfortunetly my husband tries to dicipline his son with a 3 hour conversation, and we all know that wont work. I have smacked this child, gave him time out, he is with a psychologist,,,, and nothing is working... its getting worse and worse, and I have recentment towards this unruly child which uproot my other kids.... So girl, I understand completely how you feel. No one could help me with this, and I'm sick of talking... so when you get help please inform me too... cause I'm about to ring this bugger's neck..... Ame

Trudy - posted on 10/02/2010

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Hi there I hear what you are saying love i have two stepsons 12 &15 and they are both spoilted little brats if they can't get there own way they will try anything to get what they want just like 2 year olds but i have been on a course called triple p and i fond if you do both the courses as there is one for children under the age of 10 and then there is a teen one and both of them are very good and if you could work together with the father and they mother it may just all work out better cause you all need to be singing from the same page if you catch my drift but if you would like more advice email.me and i'll see what i can do
Thanks Trudy

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