A step-mom's mother's day

Amanda - posted on 05/05/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone! I know that all our situations are unique, challenging and often times never praised for or about. However, one of the toughest things for me (step mom of 2 boys that we've had with us since they were 2 and 3 for about 8 years) is that they always go for the day with their bio-mom on mother's day and I always feel frustrated or just plain "blue". I have 2 gorgous baby girls of my own, but love the boys as if they were my own and it just never fails that I can't fully enjoy the day. Feeling blue as this sunday approaches and trying to make the best I can out of the sitatuion that always has me down. We have full residential custody and sometime we get to squeeze in a dinner on Sat. night if it's our weekend. In this case, it's her weekend and I wont' see them all weekend long. How do I include them or handle this to let them know that I think of them just as much and make it special for us?

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Have a 'Step Mother's Day' the weekend after. That way they don't feel like you're pushing for something that belongs to their bio-mom.

I tried this idea but both my husband and step-son are absent minded and forget every year :S

Jennifer - posted on 05/17/2009

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I have been a step-mom for a little over a year, but dated my husband for 2 yrs. So, my step-son has been in my life now since he was 5 and he is now 8. For previous years, he has made presents for both his mother and me. But this year, he just made a present for me. We have sole physical custody of Christian for many reasons. She gets him every summer and every other Christmas. I agree with Sonya, have your husband sit the boys down or go shopping with them to pick up something small, but special for you and their bio-mom. It's the easiest. I have my step son every Mother's Day, but I make it a point to always get her a card and send it out to her for that special day. It seems to work and she feels like he is thinking of her even though she doesn't call enough or keep in touch. Hope that helps.



-Jennifer

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Caz - posted on 02/03/2011

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i have 2 boys one is my stepson who is 17 years old and my own son who is 6 years old and for the past 7 years i have had presants from them although my stepson lived in germany until he was 12 yrs old i always had something for mothers day even a mum to be gifts too now my stepson has been living with me and his dad he always do his own thing on mothers day but he always wish me a happy mothers day every year and i am so greatful for that it really do not matter if they are there or not as long as the mothers have a nice day that make it special

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Mothers day doesnt have to be celebrated on that specific Sunday. If you want to have ALL your kids there to celebrate such a special day celebrate it the Sunday before or after. Let you husband know that it means a lot to you to have all the kids with you and ask him to arrange all the cute special things for you a different Sunday. When you and the kids look back on the photos and think about the great memories no one will even think about the fact that it was on the 3rd sunday of May instead of the 2nd all that you will remember is that you and your entire family celebrated the joys of having a great mom together.

Sonya - posted on 05/17/2009

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My step-children get me presents too for mothers day it's lovely. Get your partner to sit down with all the children and make mothers day cards for you and their mum its amazing what they'll put in your card you'll be so pleased. Have dinner together and talk about how much you love each other.

Sonya - posted on 05/17/2009

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My step-children get me presents too for mothers day it's lovely. Get your partner to sit down with all the children and make mothers day cards for you and their mum its amazing what they'll put in your card you'll be so pleased. Have dinner together and talk about how much you love each other.

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