Cristina - posted on 11/19/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
So the bio mom of my stepdaughter is driving us up a wall. My fiancee has asked that I allow them to handle any issues going on involving their daughter, but I'm the one that spends the most time with her since I'm a SAHM.
When I first met my fiancee, his daughter was having major problems in school, whether it was not turning in work or simply not doing it. Having adjusted to life with the new baby, I've been working side by side with her this year and we've been slowly improving all her grades. Of course, the bio Mom tries to take all the credit for it, despite the fact that whatever work she does at her Mom's house I usually have to have her redo as it hasn't been checked and usually is barely legible. Not only that, but after we all had agreed that my stepdaughter needed to prove herself through grades and good behavior before we allowed her to do any extracurricular activities, at the last minute, the bio Mom changes her mind and signs her up for basketball. Though my fiancee got her to agree to wait until they talked about it, when I went to pick up my stepdaughter from school on the day of the first practice, she was already suited up and her stepfather was there. Of course, she instantly started sobbing saying that her Mommy said "Daddy said it was okay!" (all of this in front of her friends and teacher) and not two seconds later, her Mom is calling my phone to lecture me on how I had "misunderstood" the message.
This is only a small sample of the daily CRAP she loves to pull. She loves to try and change our agreed upon days saying that her daughter "doesn't want to stay" with me and that she keeps "asking for her Mom." Of course, whenever I ask my stepdaughter if she would rather stay at her Mom's, she says no. It drives me absolutely insane how selfish the woman is since when she does have her, all she has her do is babysit her baby brother.
HELP!!! I don't think I can stay silent much longer and I know that if I were to confront her directly, it would make it much, much worse for everyone involved. What do I do?!?!?!