Sharon - posted on 02/21/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
Hi, I'm new here and am not sure if this topic has already been covered~ apologies if it has!
My step son is 21, I have been with his father for nearly 16 years, so I have been a part of step sons life for many years. When he was 9 years old for a variety of reasons his biological mother didn't want him and for the 5 years after he lived with my husband, daughter and I. He never brought us any trouble home, and not once was I made to feel like 'just his step mum'. We had a fantastic relationship.
Then he met his fiance. Since they have got together he is all his mum. He has 'forgotten' that she kicked him out not really caring whether we took him or not, she just wanted rid. I haven't had a Mothers Day card for the past 3 years, and my birthday is hit and miss.
Since they have begun the wedding arrangements I have been excluded completely. I have made several offers of help, all rebuked usually via Facebook, never to my face!! I am just so angry, upset, hurt, confused. I could go on.
I shall be attending the wedding next weekend, but what is my role? Am I just another guest? I suppose I am really.
Thank you for letting me get this off my chest ~ none of my friends are step mum's, so although they will listen to me they really don't understand anything.