Christine - posted on 07/09/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )
I Have an 8yr old step daughter, and two sons, one 2yrs and one 3mos. My step daughter comes off as a very selfish and very bossy, I even hear it from the parents of her friends. Most of her charactor has been shaped by that of her bio mom, who is not very different. For my step daughter and my sons, it's beginning to be a constant point of frustration. My daughter freaks out and is constantly yelling at my oldest son, if he steps foot in her room, touches anything that's hers or simply stands where she thinks he shouldn't. My daughter is getting to the extreeme where if my husband and I are having a conversation, she has to know everything, if something is said to the dog, she has to be there to know. Because she is old enough to read and understand most of what she sees, she is now reading over our shoulders when we are on the computer typing emails or other corrispondences.
There is now Personal respect, what she expects form everyone else, she is exempt from, ie asking to use a toy that doesn't belong to her, before she plays with it, or even asking to go play with friends, instead of telling me she's going....
This is causing quite the domestic conflict, what's more is that my husband sees himself as exempt from developing some sort of resolution, when he's the only one she will listen too.
What do i do? my sons are picking up on the stress, it's causing potty training difficulties with my 2yr old, because my daughter must be kept up to date on all his abolutions, to the point where she feels she must be in the bathroom while i'm trying to get him to go....
How do you stress personal space and respect to an 8yr old who doesn't see you as an authority firgure?