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I need advice on dealing with my stepchild's mother. Please help!

Christine - posted on 07/02/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My husband has an 11 year old daughter from a past relationship. He sees her almost every weekend and for 2 weeks in each summer months. But here is the problem.. her mother! She has got this little girl thinking shes sick all the time when nothings even wrong!! She takes her to the doctor over everything. She fell off her bike, her mom took her to the er. She had a head ache, her mom got her a cat scan! Really??? And another thing, shes ALWAYS taking her to the dentist, to get cleanings and this and that and then afterwards she expects my husband to pay half when he knew nothing about the appointments to start off with. I have been with my husband for 6 years now and NEVER had to take her to the doctor. But her mother always finds something wrong. What should we do? Not to mention her mom has enough money to pay for a cell phone for her... that she did not ask her dads approval on. I can barely afford to make ends meet myself and take care of our children we have together. Any ideas would be helpful.

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Lindsey - posted on 08/16/2012

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Some mothers do this to "cut off their nose to spite their face". In other words, taking them kids to the doctor constantly JUST so the dad has to pay. I deal with this all the time. The kids are always at the Urgent Care, taking meds, allergic to something new... you name it.

The problem is, there's nothing YOU can do. You just have to grin and bear it. Your husband is the only one that has any say in the situation with his daughter at all. We, the stepmoms, must roll our eyes and vent online. :) Good luck.

Candace - posted on 08/12/2012

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keep an eye on that child!! her mother sounds like she has Munchausen by proxy! she could even be poisoning this child to make her sick. Call dept of children and families and report her so they can look into this childs medical records and see if there is a pattern. she will also be evaluated if they feel she is a danger to her daughter and mabey take her away from her.

Missy - posted on 07/05/2012

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court orders for everything...if you get copies of the medical records and everything is cleared by the doctor you can make visits to doctors unless and emergency..high fevers, broken bones stuff like that it has to be cleared through dad before she can go...but be careful and chose your battles wisely it can turn into more trouble than its worth.

also another option is fight for more time

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